Give up on sex life?

its all good...somes just better than others...also what ever is?...what it was...its all about what it is...and what you have...nothing's changed there...I vote its a bad nite...the sun will come up tomorrow....

I don't think it is possible for a male to "voluntarily" give up his sex life. As you age your sex drive will diminish but it will still be there ..... kinda like trying to voluntarily give up breathing.

Ditto, bolo's and todd's statements .... the son is rising.

Tony and John, I'm with you on this 100%.

Sex life in any long relationship can be very delicate and a bit complicated at times under the best of circumstances. Between the HT deadening and shrinkage and the surgery death blow and additional shrinkage I don't even know where to begin. And since nothing has begun in over a year it seems like in a land far far away at a time long ago I was a horn dog, now I'm just a dog without his horn. I can't even put into words how the dynamic of my relationship with my girlfriend of almost 17 years has changed. Intimacy has dropped to almost zero and it feels so complex that when the little guy functions again someday I think it will be like trying to navigate an impossible maze to get back anywhere near what I and we were.

I understand what many guys say about trying to stay positive and that this is your 'new normal' but crap, sometimes you got to wallow in the muck before you can rise again. Will I ever get there again? I don't know at this point. Will me and my Lady ever get back some of the intimacy or will this destroy it for good? I can't answer that, I like to think we will find a way but man it is complicated. Sometimes a part of me wishes I was still in my drinking days and I can give myself a full mental break and try on some of the old 'I don't give a crap attitude'. But I know that is a path to nowhere so I will just plug away and move forward and continue with the hope that it will get sorted out and maybe, just maybe; this 'new normal' crap will work out for the best.

Yes, I totally understand the frustration. Hang tough guys. Of course nowadays 'hang' is probably a poor word choice, lol....Jim

I think you are having a bad day... We all understand that, as almost all of us have a period of low drive or an unresponsive male member. It is frustrating for sure. I find a good talk, during the day, not when I want sexual relations, has help with my wife and I. She is supporting me with everything else, so I ask her for support in some type of intimacy as we go through this journey. With my low libido, sometimes I don't really care and would rather play a video game. Sometimes she surprises me and tells me we have to for my sake so I don't have long term ED. Good luck on your journey with this. Take care. -JR

I have given up on mine, well except for the memories.
Michael

RCS said...
I don't think it is possible for a male to "voluntarily" give up his sex life. As you age your sex drive will diminish but it will still be there ..... kinda like trying to voluntarily give up breathing.

Ditto, bolo's and todd's statements .... the son is rising.

Well, I guess the key word in that is "voluntarily". Did I volunteer to give it up, or did I just surrender due to miniscule pleasure, or even all things considered the opposite of pleasure? whichever, but bottom line: whatever the results were, they were not worth the hoops being jumped through.

I did make a decision(voluntary or not) to stop sticking needles in it, and fearing Peyronie's and ER trips, or pumping it up, or spending megabucks on Cialis(for therapy, not for sex) in order to have constant heartburn and frequent nose bleeds, all(except Cialis) to get a fake feeling erection for an orgasm that was without any real pleasure and sometimes downright unpleasant, and usually accompanied by urine through out the attempt. I went through all of that religiously for a good year(almost at 2 1/2 years now since RP), but finally said "this is not worth it". I used to think I would go for the implant, but I have not thought about that in quite a while either, as I tend to think "considering all of the above, what's the point?".

If orgasm was still pleasurable, and if I had a partner who had needs and wanted it, then I would probably go for the implant. But I hear shrinkage, or additional shrinkage, often goes with that, though maybe not always. But just one more negative to consider, so I'd need to have some other strong positive rewards to go through that.

I certainly do not look forward to any possible future HT. However, it would have one apparent blessing if I am forced into it: the absence of all sexual thoughts, or so I hear.

Post Edited (BillyBob@388) : 6/26/2016 7:37:59 PM (GMT-6)

Am heading in this general direction with the first injection of Eligard tomorrow. My wife and I have discussed. She says women often prefer cuddling to sex. Works for me.