Oh my, Sallyyy. Unfortunately, this is going to become ever more typical. My own was found rather later than it should have been, in no small part because I also didn't do annual screening for about
4 years. The PSA test was being criticized anyway, and I thought I'd be ok until a recheck at age 55. Now they're telling us not to be screened at all. It's cheaper after all to just write off some, than to treat many. Follow the money.
Mine may or may not have been put into durable remission. "Cure" is a term seldom used with Gleason 9, especially stage 3.
By the whole PSA avoidance, we're leaping back 20+ years back before PSA screening began. Men were diagnosed with pretty advanced cases, since the symptoms are usually subtle to non-existent. Something like less than 5% were even curable. When they become significant enough to send us stiff-upper-lipped men to medical care, the situation will likely be rather advanced. This has been discussed endlessly here and elsewhere, but it revives in my mind every time I hear of one who was discouraged from screening only to later find a significant case.
The dilemma isn't in screening or not. The dilemma is in knowing which detected cancers need treating and which don't. It's not over-testing, it's over-treating that is the problem.
There is hope even for advanced cases with some of the current treatments. I'll echo SpecialLady's comment. Her encouraging words are true.
Along that line, I've added you to the illustrious roster of the G9 Crew, a gathering place for those of us with that diagnosis. This category generates some specific concerns, and we may be in more advanced situations. This is a link to that thread. If you read through some of it, you'll find many with frankly serious diagnoses, yet most are still doing well.
www.healingwell.com/community/default.aspx?f=35&m=3182035All the best as you explore the options.