going in for surgery lots of questions

These are hard questions to answer due to the variability of surgery and outcomes. You can come out of surgery without problems like me, but many men do experience the problems you mentioned.

1. Many men are dry from the time the catheter is removed, others usually are incontinent for several months with varying degree, while others remain incontinent. Minor incontinence such as stress incontinence is fairly common and to most men isn't a problem. For me I was dry from the moment the catheter was removed, but I do experience some stress incontinence when lifting heavy equipment.
2. If both nerves are spared likelihood of ED is less. But having some ED problems now will be exacerbated after surgery. I never experience ED prior to or after surgery. Again depending on the degree, one of the PDE5 drugs will work, or a vacuum pump. Some men will require injections which usually is very effective. Lastly there are implants.
3. No experience here for those.
4. The urologist will try to deflate the gas out of you, but some always remains. Usually it isn't a big problem and will slowly be absorbed over the next day or two. For some men like me, I had excruciating pain at night during the first two day from the gas migrating to the shoulder area requiring 10mg hydrocodone both nights. If it wasn't for the pain, Alleve would have been enough for the pain.
5. Removing the catheter is a real non-event. It happens so quick and it does not hurt, but feels a little strange. Afterwards you might have some burning will urinating which will disappear within a day.
6. Never had that problem, still have plenty of testosterone.

Sorry that you had to join this group. Here is some advice about leakage and ED
1) Do pelvic floor exercises. if there is still time, do them before the operation. Then start them up once the surgeon says it is OK. (Do not do them when the catheter is in.)
2) I used Trimix. This involves giving a shot to you unit, but if you do it right. (I stopped when they put me on hormonal therapy.)
3) I leaked very bad for a couple of months after the operation. I then took up riding a bike (with the surgeons permission) in addition to pelvic floor exercises. I rapidly regained control. My theory is that riding a bike while wearing pads helped exercise my pelvic floor muscles. Now only have stress leaks.

Other things to consider:
While the catheter was in I wore backpackers pants - the kind with a zipper running down the side of the pant legs. In this way no one knew that I had a catheter. Get some good books or Netflix for the first two weeks. Consider using one of those blow up rings to sit on.

Having surgery sucks but there are thousands upon thousands of men that have gone though it and are having active and intimate lives.

Dennis, welcome, good luck on your surgery. As to your questions.....

1. how long are you incontinent -

for me it took about 5-6 weeks. But as you can see from resposes above, everyone is different. Follow your doctors instructions on doing kegels, be patient, dont expect linear improvement. It will be a few good days followed by a bad day. Dont get discouraged.

2. I do have some ED now but enjoy sex how long after might that come back - again - everyone is different.

While the vast majority of guys eventually become continent, there is a bigger percentage of guys that dont get their "mojo back". Hope you get nerve sparing and when your Dr says go, just do it. Or try.

3. If it does not come back naturally has anyone used the pump or had implants - some have, with success,

i cant speak to mujch to this

4. I know they will fill me with gas for this surgery how long will that pain from the gas last - as with most other things PC, everyone is different.

I had a brutal time, its a good thing i expected it, from the education on this site, otherwise i would have thought i was having a heart attack. But as you can see, some guys have no problem. If you experience issues with gas, walk your ass off, as much as you can. In fact, do that anyway, it will help your recovery

5. I will have the catheters in for 1 week is that pain full to have removed -

nope. Besides you will be so focused on life after catheter, that you wont feel anything. And if you're lucky, your nurse who pulls the tube out will be hot hot hot.

6. Big question How does the lack of sex or time consuming and urination effect your wives or partners?

(sign), in the weeks leading up to surgery, i gave my wife a serious workout. Like when we were dating again. I think she was relieved at the lack of sex. LOL

I can tell you what my experience has been. Your experience may be similar or much different.
I'm 66, 65 at time of surgery on 14 July 2016. 6'1 200 l Good physical condition. Long time jogger, 5'8", 150 lbs.
I had robotic prostatectomy 14 July 2016. Surgery performed at VA hospital by resident with 200 prior surgeries.Both nerve bundles were spared, cancer was confined to prostate.

Questions:
1. how long are you incontinent.
Never had a problem at night. Wake up around 4 or 5 in the morning with a full bladder, visit the bath room then go back to bed. Major leakage only a problem for about a week after catheter removal. Have tried not using a pad. Not too bad, sometimes spots through clothes though. Found some light pads that are comfortable and use one per day now. I leak if I cough or pass gas. A minor irrit
2. I do have some ED now but enjoy sex how long after might that come back.
My wife went through menopause 15 years ago and I am way past my teenage instant woody years. We were using lubricants before surgery. My desire was not effected at all by surgery. No natural erections yet 5 months after surgery. Started Viagra usage in November.Tried 12.5 mg Viagra and 25 mg w/o effect. 50 mg was marginally effective. 75 mg more effective, wife says notably so, but still not exactly stiff. Will try 100 mg and see how that works. Also planning to try Levitra and Cialisis. Different people seem to have better results with different meds. I would recommend accessRx as an online pharmacy.
3. If it does not come back naturally has anyone used the pump or had implants.
VA offered me pump. I turned it down. Definitely not a mood enhancer. Wife not too thrilled at the idea either. Having second thoughts though. May want to try it as a rehabilitative, therapeutic tool. If I had knee surgery I would probably have physical herapy during my recovery. Same thing ain't it ? Wife is in agreement with that idea.
4. I know they will fill me with gas for this surgery how long will that pain from the gas last.
I had a very sore abdomen for a few days. Don't know from what exactly. Likely a combination of things. I suspected internal bruising and trauma was a major factor. Take your pain meds, get up and move around. Worst thing for me was no bowel movement for 4 days. You will probably get stool softener meds. Use them. After a week my main concern was the darn catheter. What a hassle.
5. I will have the catheters in for 1 week is that pain full to have removed.
No big deal at all. Doc said it would be in 2 weeks. Actually in 20 days. I told doc removal was not painful at all, just uncomfortable. She said that was the usual response. There was some irritation for a week after removal. Worse for me than most perhaps since catheter was in so long.
6. Big question How does the lack of sex or time consuming and urination effect your wives or partners?
thank you in advance Dennis.
That, I am sure, very much depends on your wife and your marriage. Mine has been great. Glad to be my physical therapist and do some stroking to help keep the blood flowing and hopefully keep things in working order while waiting for nerve healing. I read about some guys having problems with urine flow when sexually excited. Happened a few times to me when we first started fooling around about 6 weeks after surgery. Has not happened with pharmaceutically assisted erections.

Welcome, Dennis

1. how long are you incontinent

I wore heavy pads for about 2 weeks. I was dry at night after a week or so. I wore shields around the clock for a few weeks, I still put one in from time to time as I think it might be needed. I leak occasionally at what feels like random times.

2. I do have some ED now but enjoy sex how long after might that come back

I had a partial night time erection about a week after catheter removal. No issues today. I do take daily cialis 2.5 mg, and everything works just fine. Be prepared, it will be different. For me, I think it's better. Really.

3. If it does not come back naturally has anyone used the pump or had implants

No experience

4. I know they will fill me with gas for this surgery how long will that pain from the gas last

I didn't have any issues with this. Some guys talk about it taking a day or two to dissipate.

5. I will have the catheters in for 1 week is that pain full to have removed

Catheter removal is no biggie. "look to the side, take a deep breath and let it out slowly as you count to 5"

6. Big question How does the lack of sex or time consuming and urination effect your wives or partners?

I think for a lot of us, we find out that our partners compensate much better on this score than we do. And, even if willie doesn't work as he did before, there are lots of other ways to be intimate--which most women appreciate.

The keys, I think, to getting through surgery and recovery are to have total confidence in your team, to understand that this IS major surgery. You'll be needing to take it slow for a while. Give yourself time. You'll take naps, you'll have strange aches and discomforts. Get out of the chair and walk around, every hour or so. You didn't say where you live, but even get outside and walk if there isn't a foot of snow on the ground.

I had surgery in February. By summer, I truly was doing whatever I wanted to do.

Oh, between now and next Thursday....have as much sex as you and your partner can manage. It'll be different afterwards. How different? Who knows?

Welcome to the "club".

I see you've gotten good responses. I've been dry since the catheter was removed, and have only experienced a few drips. I still wear pads, but only as insurance. I probably don't need them. I did kegels for at least 4-6 weeks before surgery.

I've been taking 80mg of viagra to stimulate blood flow to the penis. It is working, although I'm still not hard enough for intercourse. I didn't have ED before surgery, so I'm hoping things return in time. Everyone is different.

No experience with pumps or injections.

I didn't have any issues with the gas they blew into me.

My wife has been supportive, and that makes a world of difference.

As someone else said, don't forget this is major surgery and things can happen. I experienced internal bleeding and that set my recovery back. Then I developed blood clots in the lower legs and had a couple of small clots that got to my lungs. Again, a setback! So for the first 3-4 weeks I was wiped out, with a lot of small "issues". My internist helped me thru by assuring me some of what I was feeling was normal and to be patient.

10 weeks out now and I feel 100%. It just takes time. As soon as possible, walk, walk walk! Try for a mile a day when able. You will be amazed at how quickly you begin feeling stronger and better.

Best of luck.

3. If it does not come back naturally has anyone used the pump or had implants
NA

Update to my last post. Turned down pump when offered by VA. Wife agreed, not a mood enhancer. Had second thoughts. Thought it might be a useful physical therapy tool. Wife thought that made sense. Told my primary care doc I wanted to try it. Disappointed at first. Did not do anything. Figured out I needed to ensure tight seal. Did not shave pubic area, just trimmed closely with hair clippers. A bit of soap around the base of cylinder. Voila ! Started pumping and growing. I find the rings a bit scary. Tried them once to see how they work. Do not plan on using them though. Looks like I can use it for my intended purpose. Viagra once a week for the wife and I. A physical therapy session a few times a week with the pump to hopefully avoid possible atrophy, loss of flexibility in blood vessels, etc.

Can you give me the model number of the pump you used

thank you

40Buick-- Good luck with your surgery on Thursday, the 22nd. I hope you're home for Christmas.
You'll be weak, but glad the surgery is over.

And, mr buick, the pump may not be needed at all. If you're having nerve sparing surgery, and don't have any significant issues now, the odds are good that you'll not have major issues along these lines.