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Posted 7/14/2017 5:58 AM (GMT 0)
Since Dan's treatments stopped at the end of May, we along with family members were able to take a week-long Alaskan cruise, and he was able to play a couple weeks of golf; but his condition deteriorated rapidly in the past two weeks. He began having shoulder pain which his MO attributed to golf, so he eventually got an xray which showed nothing. I read that liver mets could cause nerve pain in the right shoulder, and we went to a palliative care dr on Friday. She put him on morphine and oxy and recommended hospice or at least home care. Dan had planned to go on a golf trip the next day if he could be pain free, so he wasn't ready to accept that these were his only options. His feet and legs began swelling pretty badly and I was worried about him, so I called for a home care nurse on Monday. The nurse came out on Tuesday and was also concerned about his condition and recommended hospice. We made an appointment for the next morning at 11, but after a really rough night, Dan passed away Wednesday morning before she got here. He put up a good fight and was able to see our daughter graduate from college, take his Alaskan cruise and play lots of golf. And we were able to love on him for a year and a half and for that we're thankful. I can't see my life without him, but I'm glad he can finally rest. It was a tough 18 months for him and everyone that loved him. Your support and advice has been invaluable. Thank you - thank you - thank you.
Mary
Posted 7/14/2017 6:00 AM (GMT 0)
Mary,

I am sorry for your loss. May your many memories of Dan help to sustain you in your grief.

Tim
Posted 7/14/2017 6:37 AM (GMT 0)
So sad to hear. Our condolences. You have been so supportive of others while you and Dan were on your own end-of-life path. I hope you can keep posting, so we all can keep learning and sharing support.
Charles
Posted 7/14/2017 6:37 AM (GMT 0)
Dear Mary,

I follow the posts regularly, and am also deeply saddened to hear news such as yours. It IS hard to imagine life without your partner, but I hope you have family members and others who can help you through these most challenging and trying times. Please take care of yourself. All my best

Olga
Posted 7/14/2017 7:05 AM (GMT 0)
Sincere Condolences....
Posted 7/14/2017 7:45 AM (GMT 0)
Mary

I am so sorry for your lost.
Posted 7/14/2017 8:53 AM (GMT 0)
I am so sorry for your loss. Thinking of you. Sue
Posted 7/14/2017 9:57 AM (GMT 0)
Oh Mary, I'm very sorry for your loss. Very sad to hear.
Posted 7/14/2017 10:52 AM (GMT 0)
Mary,

So sorry to hear about Dan. Hold on to the good, positive, loving memories. It's OK to laugh and celebrate his life.

Peace
Posted 7/14/2017 11:46 AM (GMT 0)
Dear Mary,
I am so sorry to hear this sad news, but glad to see that Dan was able to enjoy your cruise and his golf almost to the very end....thank you for sharing this with us. Sending you and your family our thoughts and prayers for peace & serenity, Suzanne & George
Posted 7/14/2017 12:09 PM (GMT 0)
Mary,

I'm one of the newer members here, but I share your grief. Reading of Dan's and your valiant fight against this beast has been a most humbling experience for me. Thank you for sharing your journey, and may you both find everlasting peace.
Posted 7/14/2017 12:39 PM (GMT 0)
Mary,so sorry for your loss. Stay strong as Dan would want that.John
Posted 7/14/2017 12:53 PM (GMT 0)
Very sorry to hear this Mary. My condolences go out to you and your family.
Posted 7/14/2017 1:06 PM (GMT 0)
Mary, I am very sorry for your loss. May your loving memories of Dan carry you through the days ahead.

Jim
Posted 7/14/2017 1:44 PM (GMT 0)
Mary,

I'm so sorry. We'll be praying for peace for you and your family.

Donna
Posted 7/14/2017 1:46 PM (GMT 0)
Mary,

Sorry for your loss but endlessly grateful for your loving care for Dan in his battle, and for your unflagging support for other guys here on the forum. This forum's ladies auxiliary continues to amaze me.

Take care of yourself now.
Posted 7/14/2017 1:51 PM (GMT 0)
Dear Mary,

I'm so sad to read this news. My heart goes out to you. Dan was far too young. I"m glad he was able to enjoy his life until the end.

Wishing you peace in the time to come.

(((hugs))))
Posted 7/14/2017 2:01 PM (GMT 0)
Mary,

I'm so very sorry for your loss. You and your family will be in my prayers.

Post Edited (57Partnership) : 7/14/2017 8:44:52 AM (GMT-6)

Posted 7/14/2017 2:06 PM (GMT 0)
Dear Mary,
I am so, so sorry for your loss...
Posted 7/14/2017 2:13 PM (GMT 0)
So very sorry to hear of your loss. Treasure the memories of the good times, and take comfort that he is now in a better place.
Posted 7/14/2017 2:15 PM (GMT 0)
My condolences to you and your family. A reminder to all of us to live, love, and laugh as much as we can for we only have a short while on this earth. Peace be with you.
Posted 7/14/2017 2:21 PM (GMT 0)
Sad news.

Condolences on your loss.

Peace,
Andrew
Posted 7/14/2017 2:21 PM (GMT 0)
Dan lived a good life this last year and now he will be forever at peace. Our thoughts are with you and your family.
Michael
Posted 7/14/2017 2:40 PM (GMT 0)
Dan now has a new and very important role as your guardian angel. Keep him close and he will always truly be with you. May God bless you for being his most important partner in this life and beyond.
Posted 7/14/2017 3:07 PM (GMT 0)
Mary, I am so very sorry to hear of your loss. I'm glad that you got to do so many enjoyable family activities in Dan's final months.
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