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Posted 7/15/2018 8:18 PM (GMT 0)
In that case he’s very lucky to have you and your background could be very helpful! 🤗
Posted 7/15/2018 9:01 PM (GMT 0)
I have some running and gym friends who are into their 80s and when I've talked about the aftereffects of this adventure they tell me that, based on their experience, those things were going to diminish anyway.

Another poster recommended this book on another thread which I just received. It's worth a look.

/www.amazon.com/Intimacy-Impotence-Couples-Prostate-Disease/dp/0738207896
Posted 7/16/2018 6:12 PM (GMT 0)
Robyn,

The only "silly" question is the one that isn't asked. My husband and I have been married for 35 years. At the time of his diagnosis, he was 55 and I was 50 years old (he was diagnosed 1 week after my 50th birthday). Yes, it is very difficult to accept that someone you love is no longer interested in the physical aspects of intimacy. It's really hard to grasp that it's not you he's no longer interested in. It is disorienting for both parties.

But, if you love him deeply, you'll get through it. If both of you understand that this is not a choice that either of you have made, and that neither of you are going through it alone, it will work out.

Donna
Posted 7/16/2018 8:00 PM (GMT 0)
I started dating my boyfriend over 6 years ago. He was diagnosed within the first 6 months. 6 years later he is doing well and so are we. He was cured with surgery. It was a long haul to get continence back and impotence. Need a lot of patience and a lot of laughter. He is cancer free. Impotence is fine with viagra. Needed a sling to fix the continence issue. We are as close as 2 people can be. It can be done. Just need to be real, honest and be able to laugh your way through some of the hard times. It does get better.
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