Lost a friend, a PCa brother, last night

This is rather difficult to post, though I think it is important for some perspective on why we fight prostate cancer as hard as we do.

My friend passed away last night, having fought a hard battle with advanced PCa. My kilt buddy, Jim (on the right). Fellow motorcycle rider. All around, a fun guy!

He had surgery back in 2012 for a G7. No follow up for 4 years until his hip broke from a minor fall, revealing severe bone involvement from recurrent PCa. For the last 3 years he had a variety of treatments. This is who I posted about in the fall of 2017, involved in the TRANSFORMER trial, trying BAT. That didn't slow his case much, and in fact his PCa was resistant to almost anything available. He was on a couple of other trials, all with limited results.

He beat himself up a lot for not following up after surgery for four years. I told him it would have been better to have tracked PSA, but with his original diagnosis and treatment it wasn't completely unreasonable to avoid the topic for a while. Still, anyone who's had surgery really should have routine follow up. As should any of us, really. An important reminder.

We face a real enemy, sometimes aggressive, sometimes sneaky, sometimes surprising, sometimes devastating. But as we have said so many times, there is no "good cancer". Some are worse than others. But I just lost my friend to this one...

Sorry for your loss, Jerry. With diligence he may Have had many more years of life, but you never really know. Obviously, we are at a disadvantage when we allow this insidious disease to grow unrestrained and unfettered to the point of no return. A lesson for all of us. Thanks for sharing.

Jerry so sorry for your loss that’s a sad story, with an ending that may have been unnecessary
It’s a good story to share though and I’m glad you did. I have a friend who is like a brother to me and I have shared a similar post with him, because he had surgery years ago had his PSA done once and never got the results .
Promised me he would the last time I shared one of his posts. And I’m going to check with him if he did not share this thread as well

I’m glad to see you here after a long hiatus. although I certainly would’ve rather had been under different circumstances. I actually sent you an email about three weeks ago but did not hear back. I was actually thinking of messaging the Mrs. who I’m friends with on Facebook just to check up and make sure you were OK

Again sorry for your loss

Very sorry that you lost your dear friend and fellow PC brother.

Redwing,
My best to you for your loss.

Of course PCa can be a killer like any cancer, but fortunately it's more treatable and manageable than many cancers. Unfortunately, this can give the illusion that special care isn't required. It's hard for me to understand why your friend wasn't vigilant with follow-up. Maybe his Uro wasn't on the ball or maybe it was your friend's personal business. No judgement.

Again, sorry for your loss.

So sorry for your loss Redwing. On a lighter note, I have followed your posts ever since I arrived here. in my mind I pictured as Probert or Kronwall like. I never pictured you in a skirt.

I very much appreciate that you posted this. And I'm very sorry for your loss.

Billybob, nice to see you back here