Tamu Update

Hi Tamu,

I was always told you will have good days and bad days with the leakage.  When your body gets tired, you may leak more.  Also, too many kegels is not good either.  If you fatique the muscles too much they can't do their job.  My doc says when guys call him about increase leakage he asks about kegels, and most of them are doing them too often and not giving them a chance to build in strength.  I hope this helps, hang in there.  Glen will tell you, it does get better.  It seems the 3 month mark is when most guys are close to completely dry.  I was one of the lucky ones in that I was 90% dry in two weeks, others take up to 3 months.  Some gush, some squirt, and all of us are challenged to be patient.  The good news is that it will get better!!!

Mike

PCa Friends,

Okay, it has been a week now since I was defolyed. Here is an update.

The first few days after the catheter was removed I was disappointed as I was gushing at times and felt I had no control at all. My bladder was not filling up enough to hardly justify making a trip to the bathroom. Then on about Thursday things got better. I quit gushing and went to dribbling. I was dry at night and begin to have somewhat normal urination. I did leak worst in the afternoons and when I walk. I continued to wear the male undergards pads but began putting a medium absorbant poise pad inside of it to get an idea how fast it became soaked. I found that it would last a good 12 hours. This morning I decided to go with only the poise pad. It sure is a lot more comfortable. I think that I will be bale to stay with them. I have not used half of the 52 count male undergards so I think I am doing fairly well. I did get over confident one night over the weekend and had a couple of JD's and water. That was a mistake as it did cause loss of control. I learned my lesson. No more alcoholic drinks for a while.

On the erection front my wife and I played around on Saturday morning. I did not get an erection but I did have the feelings there for one. It was good to be intimate and I was able to bring my wife to orgasm. This made me feel good. This morning I woke up with just the hint of an erection. It was enough to make the penis stand up but not much length to it. I will be starting the Viagra therapy prescribed by my surgeon on Wednesday night. I am anxiously awaiting to see what happnes.

Thanks to all the prayers and comments concerning my mother. She is now home from the hospital and under Hospice care. It has been frustrating for me as none of the doctors are saying how long she has and with me being 12 hours away and not wanting to make the drive with my perineum still somewhat tender this just complicates my life more then I want right now. There are plenty of relatives there to see to her so that is not a problem. I have talked to her on the phone and she has taken the news well. She will be 92 next month and is tired and ready to go so this will be a celebration as she will find the peace of the Lord.

Tamu

wow, Tamu, if you have sensations and some hardening without the Viagra, wait until you start taking it! HA! you also did not mention if you've had an orgasm yet. boy, I've never asked a "stranger" if he's had an orgasm before. feels weird! HA HA! anyway, you can have one even if you don't have an erection. yes, it's true. I'm sure your mother understands why you can't be there right now. she probably feels badly that she couldn't be there with you for your surgery. you'll have to plan a trip once you feel much better. I'm sure the doctors have no idea how much time she has. there are some things they just don't know. take care and God bless, kat

God bless you and your family. Drive safely.

I am sorry to hear about your mother. Please drive carefully and don't overdo anything.

Regards,

Bill

Tamu & Family,   A smile,           a touch,                    a gentle laugh remembered,           a voice softly                    whispered in the wind…   May the memories held deep within your heart           help to soothe your spirit at this time.     Our thoughts and prayers will follow you as you travel.   Be safe and know we care.   In Friendship ~ Lee & Buddy  

Hi Tamu, Glad your home!..... Hope things went smoothly with your travels. Our thoughts are with you! Lee & Buddy

PCa Friends,

I want to thank everyone for the prayers and thoughts on my mother's passing. Mother had breast cancer 45 years ago and had a breast removed and a lot of tissue. The cancer was bad and at the time the doctors did not give her much of a chance. She survived that until recently and was found to have metastesized cancer that caused her death. The surprise is that the doctors believe that the source of the mestatesized cancer was the reoccurance of her breast cancer even after 45 years.

The events of the last week got me off my walking schedule so I have not progressed as much as I had hoped. It is now two weeks after removal of the catheter and I am now using the Poise pads as my leakage is now down to dribbles. If I am not walking or bending I do not leak hardly at all. I have learned to tense the muscles down there when I sneeze or cough and that prevents any leakage. I have good days and bad days with the leakage and always in the late afternoons the leakage gets worse. I am a little disappointed that I have not progressed faster but when I look back and it has only been two weeks I feel that I am making good progress.

On the ED front not much is happening. I started the 25 mg of Viagra every night last Wednesday. I cannot say that it has done much although there is some lengthening. I still have some aching in my penis located right behind the head. Has anyone else experience that condition? It does not ache all of the time but when it does it is uncomfortable. Tomorrow night I will be taking my first 100 mg of Viagra. I am hoping something comes up. My wife and I have been intimate several times in the past week and I did have an orgasm without an erection. It felt close to being the same as those before the surgery. That was a relief as I did not know if it would be the same.

Wednesday will be four weeks from surgery and my lifting restrictions will expire. I look forward to picking my grandson up. He does not understand why I am not picking him up when he holds his arms out. Looking for a good week.

Tamu

Aching behind the head of the penis may be an indication. I had to go to the doc last Wed due to pain during urination. It was worse when there was a build up like in the middle of the night. I had the sensation of a blockage and back pressure. Turns out the catheter had caused scar tissue and it had to be fixed. Not a pleasant experience. Hope your's is just an ache and nothing more.

Hang in there Tamu and let your body heal. you might feel pretty well, but your body is still healing internally. I think you have to remind yourself that you are still recovering from major surgery. all things will come eventually. look how well you're doing with the pads. whenever you get frustrated, remind yourself how far you've come and try and be patient with yourself. this is what Jeff and I continue to do... kat

Tamu, we fully understand your frustration with the erections and the elation about the lack of leakage. hang in there - it will all get better. patience..patience...kat

Tamu,

It isn't doing you any good to stress about something that you were informed about in advance...i.e, post-op erections and the return of function. It's a time dependent process in most cases. These lucky few who have return of function early are just that...anatomically fortunate. Nerves regenrate over time. Be patient and just let life happen in the mean time.
If 6 or so months have passed and you still see absolutely nothing happening, then feel free to stress all you want. This early in the game, the only thing stress will do is make recovery more lengthy...God knows you and yours have had enough stress lately. Don't let the ED thing be one of the causes so soon.

Swim