Hey Dave,
Initially I thought myman would be a good name as it's about, well, myman...
Right now I'm feeling a bit overwhelmed but I know that will pass. The response here has been so kind and helpful, it's made me realize that more needs to be done. To be honest, I spent most of the day thinking we should've been better informed (I thought I was at the time!) I'm concerned that I've been too complacent. Now this is NOT due to anyone's responses to me personally, more a result of a growing fear because I know better now. Don't worry I know what to do with fear...I'll make it work for me, for all of us.
I'll get back to you on the em. Thanks again,
Susan