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Posted 8/31/2008 4:44 AM (GMT 0)
not ina flare, but I was so close to the bathroom and went A LITTLE.... so i cleaned myself up and tried my best to cover the smell w/ vanilla and soap. i was driving back w/ my g/f...and wasnt sure how to tell her "i crapped my pants".... do you think w/ the windows down she could tell? I couldnt smell anything... other than a strong vanilla smell...

I'm guessing i'm ok because when i dropped her off she didnt shy away from hugging and kissing me.

anyone of thoughts?
Posted 8/31/2008 4:55 AM (GMT 0)
It sounds like you're doing o.k. with your date; just be careful with your colon & take or adjust your UC meds to head off any flare-up that could be brewing, if you have repeat urgency. (My take on your situation.) / Old Hat (nearly 30 yrs with left-sided UC; currently on 3 Colazal daily for maintenance of remission)
Posted 8/31/2008 4:57 AM (GMT 0)
I havent been on my meds since april... I'm really doing fine... it was really about the food I had been eating.. I'm more worried if she noticed.
Posted 8/31/2008 5:31 AM (GMT 0)
UC can flare up at any time-- that's the nature of our beast. If you quit all meds you are putting yourself at risk of inflammation, regardless of what you eat. That's a hard fact of life for UCers to acknowledge, but very important to managing the ailment over time! / Old Hat
Posted 8/31/2008 12:50 PM (GMT 0)
yesh even my friends with uc that are in remission are at least on a maintenance drug. But to each his own, if she hugged and kissed ya and didn't say anything... you're probably in the clear. But even if she did... you should be honest with her and tell her that you have a frustrating disease and there might be silly situations that she encounters with you. How long have you been dating?
Posted 8/31/2008 8:43 PM (GMT 0)
let me let u in on a bit of a secret to the unmarried..you want her to accept u as a pants pooper because if you go and get married and she doesn't know about this, well...because i got sick after i got married and i am pretty sure we would never have got married if i had it before..Just a warning, will save you from an exciting divorce if you can't pick women like me :)
Posted 9/1/2008 9:10 PM (GMT 0)

Well, since she hugged and kissed I would say either she didnt notice anything or she did notice something and cares enough for you to look past it.  Either way sounds like things are o.k. with her. 

I also got this disease after I was married. But there was one time when my husband and I had been dating only a couple of months and after eating dinner out I got a wicked-bad stomach ache and ended up in the bathroom at his place for so long that he had to knock and ask if I was o.k.  then after I came out I had to go back in 2 minutest later.  I was so completely mortified.  But that was 12 years ago and we are still happily married today.  

Posted 9/2/2008 2:22 AM (GMT 0)
Love has a weird way of dealing with things. I can blow out the windows in the bathroom due to stink and my husband will walk in and start crying from the fumes but he'll say he doesn't smell anything.

If she did smell anything and if it really bugged her, she probably would have said something. If she didn't say something, take it as a good sign. She either didn't want to hurt your feelings, embarrass you or otherwise make you feel self concious or bad.
Posted 9/2/2008 2:40 AM (GMT 0)

Old Hat said...
UC can flare up at any time-- that's the nature of our beast. If you quit all meds you are putting yourself at risk of inflammation, regardless of what you eat. That's a hard fact of life for UCers to acknowledge, but very important to managing the ailment over time! / Old Hat

Old Hat, I'm not sure I agree with you...I have been off all meds for a long time now and my colon has healed itself completely of ulcers. In my case, diet has allowed my colon to repair itself to an extent.

NBT

Posted 9/2/2008 3:32 AM (GMT 0)
nuffin... i agree with him because oldhat didn't say that he was goin to get in a flare if he stopped meds.... he said he's putting himself at risk. Even if you do fine being off meds... there's no telling when the feeling fine will end. And not being on a maintenance drug just gives you a better chance that it will happen.
Posted 9/2/2008 4:30 AM (GMT 0)
I had just started dating someone when I was diagnosed with UC. Things kept getting progressively worse and worse for me health-wise. I am about to start tapering off of the prednisone from a really bad flare. But, having UC is not your fault. You did nothing wrong to get this, it just happened. If she can't deal with that, then she's not worth your time. My outlook is to only date someone who I would marry. If she won't accept me with UC now, then she definitely won't be able to handle it as my wife. Luckily the woman that I am dating encourages me and supports me as I am learning how to deal with life having UC. You should be honest with her about it.
Posted 9/2/2008 3:21 PM (GMT 0)
NBT-- I'm glad that your regimen works for you. However, based on personal experience I would not advise any UCers to quit all meds because there is a high risk of recurrence. That's what I want to make Billo aware of-- so that he'll continue to enjoy a satisfying social life. Some members write here saying that they stopped/stayed off meds for yrs but then got hit with severe flares out-of-the-blue & now have to take major meds like Remicade trying to subdue their inflammation since 5-ASAs no longer work for them.  According to my gastro, who subspecializes in IBD treatment, that's not an unusual course for UC to take; it tends to extend when not medicated. I'm not a med junkie by any means; I found out the hard way that I cannot avoid flares w/o taking maintenance meds. / Old Hat (nearly 30 yrs with left-sided UC ... [etc.])

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