Hi Tami,
Don't be scared, its really not so bad. I had to stay overnight and went home the next morning. My doctor told me that people who have gallbladder attacks before the surgery (which I did) tend to stay overnight. Other people who haven't had a recent attack and schedule an outpatient surgery can sometimes go home the same day.
I had four very small incisions - one in my belly button, another about
4-5 inches above that, and two more on the right side of my abdomen. As long as you don't wear high-waisted jeans, you won't have a problem. My jeans are under my belly button, so it wasn't a problem. The only issue with the bra is getting it on. Once its on, it shouldn't touch your incisions. (I usually hook my bra closures with the bra around my waist and then pull it up, so I had to be careful not to scrap against the incisions.)
I share your frustration with the flood of health problems. I was just diagnosed with UC in January and now this pops us. The two are definitely related - people with UC are more likely to get gallstones, but that doesn't make me feel any better about
it. The day before I had the surgery I had a colonoscopy that made my doctor upgrade my diagnosis from proctitis (only rectum affected) to pancolitis (whole colon affected). The whole ordeal was pretty depressing. Luckily, since then my symptoms have improved dramatically - probably because we started using medication for the whole colon. Anyways, I'm blabbing...
Definitely tell your hubby you're going to need help for at least a few days. You may want to explain things to your four-year-old, too. My son finally understands that "Mama has boo-boos on her tummy." He kept accidentally poking me in the gut until I explained things. Now he "checks" my "boo-boos" every day and says, "They're gettin' better!" Thank God for kids to lift your spirits!