This is not UC related but I feel so comfortable posting with you guys. :-D Anyway, for Christmas Eve, I was at my boyfriend's aunt's house. We got there pretty early and was waiting for other family members to show up. As cousins, aunts, uncles, etc. started to show up, they asked me how the show was. Let me back track-On December 20th, my bf surprised me with a limo taking us into NYC to see the tree, visited a few stores, ate at The View restaurant (very fancy!) and finally saw the Christmas Spectacular show. Lastly, the limo took us home. It was such a special and romantic day. So his aunt and cousin started asking me about
the day and I explained about
the limo, etc. They were really happy for us and said it was really romantic thing to do. His aunt then rushed to my bf's father to tell him what happened. The father came up to me and persuaded me to give him more details. After I told him what happened, he said "Ohhh now I am going to have to increase his rent by $100 per month now!". I was really upset by this. Once my bf came back to the house (he left for a few minutes to get something at the house), his father confronted him about
this. I honestly had no idea that my bf did not want his father to know about
the day because of the money issue. My bf is 36 years old and recently got a good job as a social worker. He still lives at home as I do also. We are both 36 and 30. We have been talking about
getting married eventually. I was really upset by his father's reaction! I actually had to go to the other room to compose myself. Everyone else was really happy about
our special day except for his own father. His father always belittles him and treats him like crap. It pains me to see him do this. My bf has a younger brother who is a successful sports anchor, married with two kids, has his own home, etc. It just doesn't make sense. Everything is like a business proposition with my bf's father. My bf even pays rent! He is never home, rarely eats at home, and does help around the house (cleans, does yard work, etc.). His father has two homes AND has a tenant in the back of the house. Its just so frustrating. Everytime I sit next to him, my body tenses up. Its a very uncomfortable feeling. My parents said that I am not going to marry his father obviously lol. As long as I am happy with my bf, that is all that matters. But the whole situation still bothers me. :( In addition, I just found out from my bf that he used a gift card that I gave him to buy two christmas children books for his cousins. Is that the right thing to do???
Thanks for listening. I really just needed to vent and get some insight from you guys. I hope everyone had a nice holiday!
Heather