Dealing with friends when you have a chronic disease

It's funny how when you are going through a difficult time healthwise, and having to take medications that make your personalty different and make you feel weird for months.. Friends you thought were SO close to you dissapear...no explaination.. no nothing.. they just dissapear....

  I have actually had that happen to me this time since being on Prednisone... I guess it made me too talkative or something.. I don't even know for sure as my closest friend (or who I THOUGHT was my closest friend) has just blown me off.. .She won't return my calls, say hello to me... nothing...  it's like we don't even know each other and she's my next door neighbor... (Well right across the road as we live in the stix)... 

  I've left a couple of messages with no return calls, but can hear her outside at times and it makes me sad that we're not talking anymore...  and I have NO IDEA WHY.... I'm just blaming it on the meds and being sick..... None of our other mutual friends have a clue as to why she's acting that way, or their just not saying anything either..

   Weirdest I've ever felt...  besides being sick.....

seems it might be too much for her to be involved with?....you being sick and possibly your personal life situation? Was she in support of you and hubby separating or staying together?

It sounds like it's more than just not wanting to be your friend and that it's the combination of stuff that's involved.

not all friends have the ability to be friends when the going gets tougher.

Worse is that she's your neighbour....meaning she'll always be the reminder.

It's very rude, however, for her to not return your calls or at least to have a proper severance of the relationship.

Anything seem it could be possible?...or am I totally in left-field.
Oh, is she going through something herself where you may have been perceived as being not a good friend to her?

I know it hurts.

Keep us posted if there's any change.
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I have kind of been the opposite. I find myself so exhausted most of the time that I haven't reached out to any of my friends. My boyfriend and family have stuck by me and kind of muscled their way into my life and kept me connected, but the rest of my social contacts (already a small circle) have kind of fallen away. I don't really miss them... I'm too focused on trying to feel human.

I've been so lucky to have my friends stick with me and show genuine interest and offer support while I am sick. I knew I had nice friends, but wow, they can really shine if you let them. Me having this most recent UC flare has brought all of us together even more.
What I am trying to say is that maybe this 'friend' wasn't really for you after all. Some people are friends of convenience and don't stand up to the stress test. No harm in letting that relationship just fall away, as long as you can accept that it is not you, not her, just the way it is with both of you. Time to put those efforts into cultivating a different relationship.
Good luck.