WISH ME LUCK!!!!

I'm taking my two boys and my friends kid to see SmackDown at the bradley center downtown here. I'm so scared when I go to these things. I'm also going with three boys the one is 15 so he can help if I need to go to the bathroom.

On another note: I don't have lupus the RA lady said but my rash is rosesa(my mom has the same complextion) She said I can give you cream I said nope. I'm fine it just looks like I have blush on. I doesn't bug me any.

I also decided to just stay on the birth control pills because my OB said there is no research that proves the pills are less affective with UC or Crohn's.

On a sad note: My husband (to make a long story short) signed on a business behind my back and we are seperated. this has been along time coming. He is unsupportive and he thinks a marriage is his way or no way. I've stayed with him because of the kids and he never wanted me to work or go to school. Once I started school(because I knew we wouldn't be together) he was angry. While he was never physically abusive he was verbally abusive. Wish he could see that he has three beautiful kids and a loving wife. He is always chasing the dollar. Never happy. He started this business that I said no to for the last three years because he has had two other businesses and they have cost us about 15,000 dollars and now this business is 60,000 dollars and it isn't making crap about a thousand a month. How can he be so dumb.

I'm sorry I know this is a UC forum but come on. I'm trying to stay calm so I don't flare or make my uc worse. I will most likely have to move home. My parents have been telling me to move home for years they are GREAT but I'm 31 who lives at home with three kids. I won't be done with school for about four years. Also, who wants a overweight woman with three kids who lives at home. My parents have a great relationship they have been married for 33 years and they are in love I always wanted that. but I never get it with him.  He wrecks every vacation with his mouth and mood and everything is his way. Just not the way I wanted my life to be what if I'm alone forever?

Sorry just having a bad month and I'm sure more to come.

31 is a youngster. You have plenty of time to get on your feet. You're doing the right thing. I wouldn't be surprised if your UC improves just from being away from him and the negativity that surrounds you relationship. They tend to be dumb you know... ;)

I have a friend who finally left her husband because of verbal abuse, etc.  She was about 35 and has two children.

She met a wonderful man who treats her like she should be treated and they are engaged.

Move on - be happy - life is very short.  I am so thankful to have a wonderful, supportive husband of 49 years!!

ElaineNY

Take it from me.. and Quincy can back me up on this one as I've cried on her "shoulder" many times..lol... I've been married to a drug addict/alcoholic for the last 11 years.. He was sober from drinking 3 years before we met and still has not taken a drink, but his addiction has gone from one thing to another over the years and my health has paid a DEAR price. I was so sick with U/C because of stress that prednisone wasnt helping and even Remicade, which helped, I couldn't take because of a scary reaction so anyway to make an already long story short.. I have moved out and I'm renting a little house and I am about 99 percent in remission and the only meds I take now (gotta change my sig) is Wellbutrin for depression and Canasa for my U/C.. Sooooo.. Getting away from a stressful marriage and getting to a safe place should put you in a much better situation to get into remission and you may not even need the big gun medicines like I did once you get that stress out of your life... Does your husband have any alcohol / drug addiction problems? Just curious because you describe a lot of things that I can relate too with my hubby...

Good luck and email me if you ever want to chat :D Support is a good thing right now and you will find a lot of it here!

Sorry to read that all this trouble is happening to you-- for sure, it can't be helping your UC! Try to take things one day at a time, and don't even think about who would want you with three kids. Getting involved with finishing your education and resettling the kids, etc. will keep you very busy. You just have to make up your mind that it's crucial to get out of a bad relationship where harmful things are being done behind your back. Best wishes! / Old Hat (30 yrs with left-sided UC; presently in remission taking brandname Colazal)

Thanks everyone. I won't have to pay to live with my parents. They will help me. My mom is my best friend. We have always been really close. My husband doesn't have any drinking or drug problems. He grew up in a bad I mean really bad home life and he still talks to his parents which is a HUGE  problem in our marriage. His dad has drinking issues and he has(which I've said in a previous post) call our older son fat and stupid and made him help out in his yard and he got like (not kidding) about 50 bug bites all over his body. I went off on his dad and his dad said oh your kids make stuff up. How does an 8 year old know to make stuff up. He doesn't do it with anyone else.  His mom isn't allowed her(she lives in GA) because she will come her and stay here for about a week and be mean to me. She has said I can't take care of my kids. I spoil them. They are brats etc. I could tell tons of stories. He sticks up for them and says maybe our son is making stuff up and when his mom said this to me he just sat there when he said he will stick up for me. Oh, she said I should put my two year old in a crib upstairs and make her sit in there all day if she can't stop screaming and she said to my sister in law I hope your baby rots in hell. They are all crazy. Oh, well. I don't see his dad and my husband just goes over there and his mom isn't allowed here. Just horrible. He hasn't called once about his kids. Whatever his loss.