beatUC said...
It's funny how all the pro-surgery folks will swarm and shoot down any anti-surgery information.
It's "poorly written" etc etc. Tis is supposed to be a forum that is about support, but it seems many here don't want you to know the truth. I can understand that you people who have had surgery must talk about it in a positive way because for you, there's no turning back, but let's try to be supportive and let people make up their own minds based strictly on the facts at hand.
There is no coming back from surgery, and it can be a life or death decision.
The fact is, even if this is just one negative towards surgery study, which it is not, the facts presented are appalling.
I have been running my webpages 'Shaz's Ostomy Pages' for over 10 years now. I have spoken to, literally, 1000's of ostomates to be and even more ostomates. My figures do not support your views (nor the limited study you quote) at all.
I'd venture to say that 98% of the people I have spoken to over the years end up being very happy with their ostomy surgery despite a few having some misgivings at the beginning as they learn a 'new norm' (give or take a few percentages as I've never actually counted, just know the overwhelming majority are very happy with their surgery - and that is a FACT! that the vast majority of my friends who have had surgery will back up). Sure, it is a learning curve at first (but aren't most things?) From the 1000's I've spoken to, maybe 20% have to have subsequent surgeries due to complications such as hernias, blockages, etc.
We most definitely are being supportive by letting people know how wonderful life is after surgery.
I'm not entirely sure you realise just how bad life with severe UC can get. Even though my surgery was 35 years ago (with no need whatsoever for any additional surgeries since) I can still remember an incident at school where the siren rang to signal the end of recess and I just couldn't move for 10 minutes, all the while clutching my rectal muscles for dear life, for fear of going in my pants there and then! My UC never went into remission no matter what we tried. I still remember running to the loo 20+ times a day and hoping I made it on time. I still remember the endless weekly doctor appointments, hospital stays and 6 blood transfusions. I still remember taking 21 tablets a day. I still remember having an extremely restricted diet.
That was no life for a 10 year old kid and believe me, my parents tried everything there was out there to try. They even thought about
travelling to the UK and US at one stage (I'm an Aussie) in the hopes of some new treatments that would help until they talked to the parents of a girl who'd travelled to the US who'd ultimately had to have surgery anyway.
Surgery gave me my life back and I'm not ashamed to let people know that there is an alternative to life with UC!
By saying "I can understand that you people who have had surgery must talk about
it in a positive way because for you, there's no turning back" you're in effect, telling us we're lieing, and I can tell you for a fact, we're not, we really are happy we had surgery, and that's what we really resent in your posts.
We're neither pro nor anti surgery. We'd prefer no one had to have surgery. However, we know that is totally unrealistic and we're just lucky enough to know what most UCer's don't (hindsight is 20/20). We know surgery is scarey to contemplate but we also know that there IS a much better life out there for you after surgery if your life with UC has become unbearable.
It's totally understandable that you're scared of losing a massive body part, but please know that you can live a perfectly normal life without your large intestine. Good riddance to bad rubbish I say to my colon!