Thank you Sibby and Babeinthewoods for being so wonderfully nonjudgemental. No one knows everyone else's story. For those who automatically rail against surgery, I'd really think that you'd have more compassion. You don't know what myself and the other j pouchers and ostomates have been through, and it is assinine to think that we only come on here to try and convince others to have surgery.
We have a wonderful community over on the ostomy board, and I still consider myself as having UC so I lurk over here too, looking at the new research. I certainly hope that there is a cure one day. My father-in-law and a very young nephew have UC and a good friend has Crohns. My father-in-law's on Lialda and a restrictive diet, the nephew treats with SCD and my friend with Remicade. None have had surgery and none are considering it. I fully support them and pray for a cure for them someday.
However, in my situation, surgery was the best option. Prednisone didn't work. Asacol didn't work. I had pancolitis so suppositories and enemas didn't reach high enough. I tried SCD and it didn't work. Before I could try anything else, I had a bad reaction to Remi and Imuran and almost died. I got better, the doctors said we could try Humira, but still, as a 23-year-old, otherwise healthy woman, I decided to give up. It wasn't worth it in my situation, and I will continue to come on here and the ostomy board to help people at the end of their ropes. I think your convictions are valiant, but I also think they are wrong. People deserve a non-argumentative place to discuss the very serious and necessary topic of surgery. If you have any questions, please come over to the ostomy board. We won't bite!