Your profile says end ileo. I have an end ileo. I thought it meant that you had one operation and have a "bag" for life, like I do.
So sorry you have to deal with arthritis issues that are so severe. I have arthritis in my spine, shoulder and hip and it is NO fun. However, Aleve seems to help me a lot. Because of full blown osteoporosis (thanks to prednisone) and the arthritis in my spine, I find it difficult to stand for long periods of time. I went to a bone specialist and he never even suggested taking Humira. 6MP, Remicade and Humira all failed when I suffered with UP. He wasn't a big fan of Reclast either, just told me to read up on it since it is my only option of treatment for the osteoporosis. Well, I did read up on it and NO THANKS.
Sounds like you are in a Catch 22. Hoping and praying you find relief.