Anyone here independent

So I've been living with my mom due to the fact I have UC, & I've been scared to leave my house. But I really want to move back to California. But I feel like I should be next to a bathroom. But if i hear if there are some independent people with UC, I'll feel more confident. So any independent UC people here?   

Post Edited (ToughKicker) : 11/20/2012 11:24:48 AM (GMT-7)

"you mean living without a toilet ?
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lol


I'm independant. I have my own house, a job, etc. However, I go to my mums for food. She cooks for me too. so there.

If you're afraid to leave the house then you aren't ready to move to California.
Is it a physical problem or mental?
I found that once I got the physical symptoms under control my mental state was 100% better, no longer fearful to get in a car.

What medications are you taking and what are your symptoms?

My mum helps me cook FODMAP compliant food. Saves me the trouble.

So a symptom-free remission?

Honestly, if you've been in remission for six years and you're still that scared, I think you need some therapy. There's absolutely no reason to let your UC rule your life like that when it's so well-controlled.

Editing to add:

I thought I remembered you and that you've posted similar things before.  I went back and looked, and sure enough, I was right.  It seems like you've been struggling with these same sort of issues for quite some time now.  Please, do yourself a favor and get some help! 

Meds for UC or meds for anxiety, etc?

hey, my sisinlaw just told me about meyer lemons - are they really that good ?

toughkicker: I figured that California is your "home" but that's only partly true. That may be "where your heart is" but right now your home is where you are, with your mom. If you move back to California it is like starting out all over again, like in Florida or New York or Alaska. California is expensive and you had better have a solid plan or it's not going to work out and you will wind up having to move back home to mommy. What does roomate mean? Some stranger? Do you have one picked out yet? Are you going to have a job lined up or have to get one after moving there or are you going to be able to start with a nestegg? Whether or not you know your roomate or not, what happens if you don't get a job or lose your job (maybe due to your UC) or what happens if your roomate loses their job and neither one of you can afford to live there off just one income? Are you going to have a vehicle? What if it breaks down and you need to spend hundreds or thousands of dollars to get if fixed? I'm really not trying to be a party pooper or a downer but you have got to have a solid plan if you want it to work, otherwise you will be there for just a few months and have to come back to your current "home".

*******Toughkicker, You've been in remission since 2006. So for the past 6 years you've had 1 or 2 bowel movements per day and no extraintestinal symptoms and yet you live with your mom because of your illness? Something doesn't make sense with the whole question.********

He needs his mommy!! me too

*****They have toilets in California.******

they do?


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hmmm, guess i'll have to give them a try sometime - send a few my way if you ever have a surplus ;-)

so, you get a red face from too many ? what about the butt ?

i do fresh lemonade in the summer but not all the time - just wondering in general if citrus causes any heiny hurtin ?

ToughKicker, are you agoraphobic? Are worried about a flare relapse?

fruitgirl, anxiety

Madpotter, I'm not Agoraphobic, but I do worry about a flare relapse.

Hey,

not sure if this is helpful but when I was first ill my parents kidnapped me and took me home for 4 weeks, then I moved back to my home and struggled on alone.  That was two and half years ago. they live 150 miles away, I was a lodger when first diagnosed, then had shared houses since.  I'm 26 I have a full time job, friends and have dated since being diagnosed - like everybody else, also had flare ups in between.

I really don't understand what you're worried about. If you ave a job and it is what you want, just move out. Its no more stressful for me than my housemate who suffers from anxiety, my friend who lives alone with diabeties and my two friends who live alone and suffer from depression.  (honest we're not all broken, we just have our needs)  We're all fiercly independant but have great suppport networks.