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Posted 11/21/2012 11:26 AM (GMT 0)
also, been in hospitals in different countys, they're all generally the same. There's nothing to worry about other than the general moving bit, but thats nothing to do with UC and just life.
Posted 11/21/2012 2:23 PM (GMT 0)
I lived on my own from my UC diagnosis all the way through my decision to have surgery 12 years later. I also took care of myself post surgery. You can do this IF you really want it. I also live in CA and understand why you would want to return. turn

Sue
Posted 11/21/2012 2:36 PM (GMT 0)
Toughkicker, I think the reason people are having difficulty understanding your questions is that almost all of us are independent. I had a six-year horrific flare, but continued working through it. My husband was supportive, but I did continue to live my life as an adult woman.

It seems to me that your issue is not UC itself, but anxiety which may or may not be totally due to the UC. If your treatment isn't addressing your anxiety as a separate issue, then I'd strongly suggest you find a good therapist to help you with it. Also, the members of our anxiety forum here at HealingWell may have a lot of good suggestions for you, so you might want to visit with them.

Hope you're feeling easier soon.

Posted 11/21/2012 2:41 PM (GMT 0)
Imjust, & Sue, I think you really helped me overcome this. I don't really feel nervous now.
Posted 11/21/2012 2:44 PM (GMT 0)
IMO, any relief felt so quickly and with generally basic advice it not going to last. The suggestion was to get professional help for an anxiety/mental-adjustment issue that has infantalized you and dominated you life for years.

Do not say "I feel better" and then do nothing!
Posted 11/21/2012 3:05 PM (GMT 0)
now i'm getting a nervous feeling -

trolling anyone ?
Posted 11/21/2012 3:23 PM (GMT 0)
soystud what do you mean trolling? I genuinely dont understand that phrase
Posted 11/21/2012 3:30 PM (GMT 0)
usually trolling (en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Troll_%28Internet%29 is more provocative.

the OT's concerns do seem to be coming form a place of dysfunction, perhaps with some unreasonable evaluation of the potential risk of a flare when far form support systems.
Posted 11/21/2012 3:38 PM (GMT 0)
ok, dysfunctional trolling -

and it was just a question -
Posted 11/21/2012 3:53 PM (GMT 0)

soystud said...
now i'm getting a nervous feeling -

trolling anyone ?

Lol!

I don't know what trolling means, but I guess I'm trolling.
Posted 11/21/2012 4:40 PM (GMT 0)
I don't think that is the case. Toughkicker has been around for quite some time.

Toughkicker, I'm going to agree with Sue because I'm from California as well; of course you'd want to return! You have made so many accomplishments in your life already, I'm sure you can make this transition an easy one. Take care and good to hear from you! 

Posted 11/21/2012 5:30 PM (GMT 0)
Thanks Lonie, I have never seen it that way. Your pretty much right.
Posted 11/21/2012 6:24 PM (GMT 0)
Toughkicker -- you've accomplished a lot, didn't you move across the country from California? Plus, you deal with UC everyday and that's an accomplishment in itself! And somewhere in my old mind I remember you being a "Toughkicker!" :)
Posted 11/21/2012 8:03 PM (GMT 0)
Lonie, The move  wasn't my idea. If it was my way, I would've never moved. It's just after 9 yrs. My parents are now letting me go home. I just wished they had more faith in me.
Posted 11/21/2012 8:07 PM (GMT 0)
The whole "letting me go home" is very problematic.
Posted 11/21/2012 8:16 PM (GMT 0)
ya think ?!
Posted 11/21/2012 8:40 PM (GMT 0)
Another example of how IBD really screws with us mentally/emotionally.
Posted 11/21/2012 8:44 PM (GMT 0)
Take it easy people.
Posted 11/21/2012 8:50 PM (GMT 0)
ToughKicker, how old are you? Good luck w/ your decision. Remember it's your decision. Have you ever read a book called "Boundaries"? It might be a good one if your parents generally give you a hard time about making your own decisions or moving.
Posted 11/21/2012 9:00 PM (GMT 0)
"Take it easy people."

point taken -


i do honestly feel there are other forums available that would be a better fit - the op obviously needs some help that may be out of the scope of most of us here - regardless, there is is only so much that any forum can provide -
Posted 11/21/2012 9:02 PM (GMT 0)
I just hate how this disease messes with us on every level...the thought of being independant scares the heck out of me...I so hate this disease and what it can do to us.
Posted 11/21/2012 9:13 PM (GMT 0)
Yes, I agree it's so tough on us emotionally. I had that same thought this morning -- I have had pretty long remission, so the "feeling" of not being around a toilet hasn't been too much of an issue. But this morning I had a little urgency, and the feeling of having to run to the restroom (and nearly running a young woman over in the process) came back all too quickly. We all have issues concerning this disease, and many people have taken anti-anxiety meds to deal with their issues and have had success with them. Toughkicker, we all sympathize with you and I think many of us have learned to live an independent life even though we have issues with UC -- but look at the people who surround you -- they probably have some sort of issue that they struggle with as well.

Posted 11/21/2012 9:31 PM (GMT 0)
I have high anxiety and stress brings on flares, so I see why it's such a big move. I didn't read about if you work or not. If you have the means to move to CA I'd suggest you move into your own apt. for now and see how it goes.

It appears you are not getting the therapy you need. If you can't get it where you are currently going please find some one else that you can relate to. I had to quit going to my first therapist and the next one is awesome.
Posted 11/22/2012 12:43 AM (GMT 0)
Mad I'm 33
Posted 11/22/2012 12:55 AM (GMT 0)
I don't blame you. I've been mad a lot too. I had to have my colon removed 14 yrs after my diagnosis. I'd had it for years before, just suffered. You are in remission, do what you want, you are young - have fun! If it's in CA then go!
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