UCwarrior,
Welcome to the forum.
Love you forum name.
But I am sorry you have to be here, with UC. That sucks.
I am not one who will push surgery, IMO it should be a last resort or in a case where your life is at stake, but I well understand your suffering... 30-40 times on the toilet a day? And that's a good day? There are some who will suggest surgery for the quality of life you currently don't have.
I can tell you that when my doc told me it was either remicade or surgery - I said NO to both, and had to find my own way.
I would suggest, since you've tried everything else, you give a chance to: diet modification, certain supplements, and LDN - low dose naltrexone.
What do you think?
I'm just suggesting you explore every option beforehand.
There are things IMO that you can control, which will have a direct impact on
your disease, the symptoms you experience and their severity.
I was able to control my UC into remission through various
supplements, probiotics, diet modification, and LDN , low dose
naltrexone.
For more info on the protocol which has put me into remission,
please go to this link: https://www.healingwell.com/community/default.aspx?f=38&m=1666318 , and look at the 11th post.
I hope you feel better and let us know how we can help
you.