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Posted 12/5/2012 1:50 AM (GMT 0)
Ok... Please dont think me beheaded.

I've just walked home from a night out crying. In february I had a flare up (and break up- but i blaim the fore mentioned) and lost weight like we all have before. I'm 5'9" and 9 stone i work out so have good muscle tone but i lost about half a stone when poorly amd havent put it navk on. Anyway just had my friends do the "you're so skinny" act on me.
I've spent time in hospital having everything I eat monitored and I remember calling my folks when I could eat a full curry to velebrate so I would never 'diet'. I feel that over the years eating what i like is such an achievement but I cant be any bigger my body just wont digest that much but why should I justify myself.

I guess im ranting but why is being slim so bad? I eat 4 small meals a day, meat, fish, fruit and veg. My hair and skin is healthy. They said i was flat chested and it wasnt a good luck to be going for. Nobldy would call a fat girl fat.
Posted 12/5/2012 1:55 AM (GMT 0)
Okay...at first I had a hard time understanding your post. But are you asking why people feel it's alright to talk about a "too skinny" person over an "over weight" person? If that's the case, I have yet to find an answer to that one! I feel discriminated against for being too thin probably as much as a person who is over weight. But yet society is too "polite" to talk about an over weight person. All I see is double standards and it annoys me too :(
Posted 12/5/2012 1:55 AM (GMT 0)
can't you gain weight? Why don't you gain 5-10 pounds? Is that an issue?
Posted 12/5/2012 1:56 AM (GMT 0)

Red_34 said...
Okay...at first I had a hard time understanding your post. (

lol, I wasn't too sure what was going on either.

I gathered that she is slim and she likes being slim, but people think she's too skinny that's why I suggested she gain 5-10 pounds. heh
Posted 12/5/2012 2:14 AM (GMT 0)
I've learned to be an interpreter over the the years. Lol

But imjustagirl, seriously....ignore what people say. There are going to be a lot people who comment on our weight and as long as you know you're eating healthy then the rest shouldn't matter. Yes it's annoying and frustrating but try to tune them out.
Posted 12/5/2012 3:32 PM (GMT 0)
Um... you think society is too polite to talk about an overweight person?? Wow... obviously none of you have been overweight! I don't think it is right in either situation.
Posted 12/5/2012 4:48 PM (GMT 0)
Did I say society as a whole? No. Polite society does not but there are rude individuals in any situation.
Posted 12/5/2012 5:27 PM (GMT 0)

Imjustagirl215 said...
Anyway just had my friends do the "you're so skinny" act on me... I guess im ranting but why is being slim so bad?

Part of it I think is jealousy (the accusers are jealous that you're fit and toned). It's cruel but they'd rather punish you than directly say the fact that they're indeed envious of you.

If I were you, I don't think I would associate with these people or call them my friends anymore (especially since you walked away from them crying). You need to surround yourself with people who understand you, are supportive and helpful, and healthy to be around :-)

I had posted a thread yesterday about loosing a lot of weight during a flare and bananagirl responded about being called anorexic:

bananagirl said...
red, i can't even count how many times my dad called me anorexic. it hurt my feelings a lot- i heard it from my GI doctor and his nutritionist, too. totally rude and uncalled for. aren't they supposed to be the ones who understand the weight loss??

Sometimes, it feels like nobody really understands what these flares do to our body and the weight loss that results. Maybe it'll help you feel a little better knowing that others here have been through a lot of the same crap.
Posted 12/5/2012 6:12 PM (GMT 0)
actually, i'd like to think you beheaded - it makes reading your post way more fun !

hang in there - your friends are probably not trying to make you feel bad - they are most likely concerned and would like to see you healthy and happy - friends can act like dicks but they usually do care -

signed,
no butt
Posted 12/5/2012 7:25 PM (GMT 0)
Some thin people living in a bit of a dream world here.

Being overweight attracts a moral judgement that you would have to be blind as a bat not to notice, starting with the teasing and bullying of fat children, endless fat jokes, the portrayal of fat people as lazy, greedy and unhealthy, and so on, and so forth.

And if people are calling you anorexic, that's probably because you do look anorexic to them.
Posted 12/5/2012 7:36 PM (GMT 0)
as visions of sugar-plums danced in their heads -
Posted 12/5/2012 8:05 PM (GMT 0)
I think both get their fair share of being picked on, here is the difference, when someone is commenting on a person being skinny, they don't see it as a negative comment, telling someone their too skinny is just a comment, where telling somone their too fat is more cynical, and aimed as an insult.
Posted 12/5/2012 8:08 PM (GMT 0)
Nicecupoftea - see that is what the OP is talking about. You say that thin people don't see all the torment an overweight person goes through, and how their bullied and it just isn't right. Then you say, well if someone calls you anorexic, that's probably because you do look anorexic to them. Why not show the OP the same kind of sympathy you want others to feel towards overweight people.
Posted 12/5/2012 8:10 PM (GMT 0)
I also agree that it does come down to jealouse people. Someone isn't happy with their looks, and see's someone that is doing something about it, so instead of trying to help themselves, they put down that other person to make them feel better about themself.
Posted 12/5/2012 9:11 PM (GMT 0)
Just a geeky comment on anorexia - "anorexia" is actually a diagnostic term meaning "no appetite." The psychiatric disorder is called "anorexia nervosa."

People with IBD really DO have anorexia sometimes, and it is important to discuss with your DR the issue if you really are averse to eating. I know I've felt that way several times in my life and it is always surprising considering how much I really do love to eat. I get alarmed when I know I should be hungry and I'm just not interested in food, LOL.
Posted 12/6/2012 3:03 PM (GMT 0)
I want to bump this thread up because it occurs to me that not everyone understands that "anorexia" is a diagnostic term your GI might put on your charts. I does not mean your DR thinks you're faking. It only means you have said you have no appetite.

If your DR thinks you have a psychiatric issue s/he should write "anorexia nervosa."
Posted 12/6/2012 5:21 PM (GMT 0)
kazbern, my GI/nutritionist/dad said anorexic because i was a vegan. they were just morons and not supportive of that lifestyle. my GI did have me see his psychiatrist to get on meds because he thought i was starving myself. i saw her once and she was just like him- didn't understand UC at all.
Posted 12/6/2012 5:26 PM (GMT 0)
lolololol

Vegan?! what's that....go see my friend, he's a psychiatrist..lol
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