Advice needed. I dont have UC, but the love of my life does and I dont know how to help him..

I don't have UC, but the love of my life does. He's in the hopsital at the moment being treated for pain and inflamation. He was on remicade for a long while and it was helping, but they stopped him cold turkey for no good reason. He was doing really well for a while without it, but now not so much. I want to help him, but I'm not a doctor, so there's not mucht that I can do that I know of. He doesn't have the best nutrition habbits, and Im in school to be a nutritonist, so i figure I can help him with his diet at least. I'm only just finsihing my first year of college so I dont have much knowledge yet. He is the pickiest eater in the universe. He refuses to eat ALL veggitables accpet for green beans. And no fruit at all ever, accapt chocolate covered acai berries and V8. If anyone could tell me a list of foods to avoid or that may help him feel better it would be much appreicated. and anyother advice s far as helping him in general I would appreciate. He's only 20, and has alot of potential. He wants to become a video game designer as well as a world renouned Parkourist (tracuer). He is bed ridden atm and wishes he could be out doing what he loves right now. I want to help him get to where he wants in life, but dont know where to begin.

1. Give him this website address and he can surf through it without anyone knowing who he is. Just gather information.

2. Although I achieved remission through diet modification it took me a loooong time to figure it out. Not everyone gets improvement through diet. When he has no other choice but to try diet it will be up to him (you can support his decision but don't force it). Most doctors don't suggest diet helps so don't expect that.

3. My non-UC spouse doesn't eat many veggies except for green beans haha. My gut loves them so they are frequently on the dinner table.

4. My gut dislikes fruit (causes multiple BM's, gas and other bad symptoms) so no fruit is not a bad thing. He can get vitamins from other sources. Surprisingly meat has a lot of vitamins.

5. Here's some ideas to start with:
Rectal enemas--Rowasa (brand name) melamine enemas also available as generic. Treat the inflammation right where it starts in the butt. He'll need to get over embarrassment and use one every night. Real men use enemas to get better.

Probiotics-these are the good bacteria his gut needs. VSL#3 is the strongest, available online directly from the maker. Expensive but stronger than anything you can buy in the local stores.
The "sachets" can be mixed with water and drunk daily. The pills are't as strong so he'll need to take more of them.

Eliminate bread, pasta and other forms of gluten for 30 days. See if his symptoms get better.
Next is to do the same with dairy, eliminate, see if there's improvement.
Forget getting "allergy" testing because it's not an allergy. It's a wounded gut not able to process foods like a healthy gut.

Eliminating caffeine helps eliminate problems for some people (that includes chocolate).
Homemade chicken broth is a great way to heal an inflamed gut. Later you can add chicken and well cooked green beans.
Eliminate insoluble fiber (nuts, oatmeal, no whole wheat either, look up other sources) to make it easier on his digestive system.

Homemade smoothies with coconut milk and coconut oil along with whatever he'll drink can be healthy. Maybe protein powder without many chemicals.

Start asking for copies of his medical tests (blood tests, colonoscopies) and ask why Remicade was discontinued, write down the reason.

Good luck.

First you've got to realize that it is unlikely that you can actually help him, even with diet. It sounds like he eats what he eats and even though you might have a small influence, you're not going to get him to change his diet much. As others have already said, everyone's case is different and sometimes it is the healthy things which make us worse. There's no guarantee that if you were able to get him to eat healthier that it would actually make a difference in his condition. It does in some but with others it does nothing. There had to have been a reason why the doctors stopped Remicade. He must have been on some other meds. Do you know which ones? Is he taking any probiotics? I really hate to say this but this is kind of like being an alcoholic. He has to want to help himself to get better. There is only so much you can do and, honestly, that is very little. There are really no foods which help UC, only foods which can make UC worse but those foods are different in everyone. It's all trial and error. Does he work or go to school and have insurance?

For some of us, it makes no difference what we eat. Some things (cruciform veggies for instance, or highly spiced/greasy food) will cause more pain when I'm flaring, but what I eat has never caused, worsened or improved a flare.

We're all different, and only he can determine what bothers his gut. Keeping a food diary is an excellent start.

Hi, unfortunately its true, that diet can have little effect on some people, he is really going to have to find out what works for him, its not as difficult as you would think, but it does take some effort, a journal for a couple of months would help, speaking for myself I knew quite quickly when something didn't work as I legged it to the toilet..fast!! but sometimes its the next day people have problems...My diet is nutritious and simple, I have found out what works for me, and I stick to it, the depressing news is that alcohol is not good for most people with UC, and I think that is hard, especially for someone your boyfriends age. I'm in remission at the moment, but if I take a tiny tiny glass of beer, its like everything turns to mush, no blood, but its nasty...my body will just not have it.

Gary, Really? What do you use? Can I buy it on Amazon? It would be nice to have the odd beer or even a glass of wine!

I think I'm going to research more into gluten because I've heard about that from multiple people that gluten free is generally helpful. There's also the fact that he's just slightly lactose intolerant. His favorite foods are breads and ice cream unfortunately. I've looked around my local nutrition s'mart and they have a ton of dairy free gluten free foods, now its just a matter of figuring out which ones he will eat to start. He doesn't take to kindly to the idea of trying new pills at this time, only because he feels overwhelmed by the fact of doctors always being like "here try this one, then this one. and -maybe- it will work this time". :/