Diet mod and family

Does anyone else get stressed eating at their family's? I totally do :(. I feel like I have to bug them constantly if I eat there about the fact that I can't have milk. I feel like I'm nagging them. But I'm also frustrated because I feel that they eat anything they want all the time lol, and the one day a week I'm there I feel that it should be ok that we leave milk out of the food so I don't bleed. Am I being selfish always telling them I can't have that? It makes eating over there not fun cuz I'm worried all the time did they listen to me, did they remember. Just makes me feel like an inconvenience to them. except my mom, she always remembers :)). Sometimes its so frustrating when other people can't relate to having a health issue. My mom has had cancer so she can relate to me and has to modify her diet too. And she's a wonderful momma. But gah!!! lol people make me so frustrated sometimes! haha thanks guys.

I get bleeding anytime I have it, it always makes me get worse so I gave it up. I think they mostly forget I can't have it. yesterday I told my brother what it does to me and then he said you should have told me that happened! lol. I just didn't want to gross them out. Yeah they could use whatever else almond milk etc.

Bring your own.....make something that you can eat and bring it to your family's house.

Ya Chrissy, that would be tough...since being on this FODMAP diet every time I go to MIL's house she never shuts up about offering me stuff, she doesn't listen, she likes to hear herself talk, she has gut issues herself and knows darned well I can't eat/drink anything while over there but some people are just plain clueless unfortunately....it's annoying and this diet is pretty much only temporary so I can't imagine how annoying it must be for you...hopefully they'll finally get it and pay more attention to your needs for your sanity sake lol!

My mom tries hard but she doesn't get it. Just try a little, it can't hurt you. The she gets upset because she can't keep track of everyone's dietary restrictions. I feel bad so now I bring my own food.

When it comes to family for me it is a non issue. If they make something I can't eat, I just simply tell them I can't have it because of the UC, I say it politely and not in anyway showing them that they are being insensitive to me and just my needs - hey it is family they understand it and I don't make a big deal out of it either regardless of how many times it must be stated, I just don't get to eat whatever it is, no drama no nothing. I'm there because it is family, not for the free meal that I must have and it must be the best meal ever type of thing. I think maybe a lot of families put to much pressure on sharing that old family meal together, the day I was diagnosed I squashed that family thought and put energy into just sharing quality time instead of sharing time over a meal.

Enzymes didn't help me so sometimes they don't even work.

Chrissy, you are not being selfish for telling them what you cannot have. I think they should understand. I had made a list for my family to put at the fridge when I was on SCD so they remember what I can and cannot have. It helped a lot.

I tell everyone that I cannot have milk because I'm intolerant and so far everyone understands. I either just have coffee without milk, bring my own or they have alternatives Lactose intolerance & UC is not a good combination so I understand why you are bleeding when you have it. It's probably best to completely stay away from it.

Yes, if you leave a list on mom's fridge then I think that would come in really handy for her, no reason why your own mom can't make a couple of special dishes just for you to enjoy, that's part of being a mom after all but yes, bringing a thing or 2 of your own safe foods is a good idea too.

Poppie- I am lactose intolerant, but don't think casein intolerant