I Don't Want My Kids To Flush The Toilet

As a lot of kids do, my kids often forget to flush the toilet. Part of me wants to holler at them but the other part of me wants to watch for signs if they should come down with IBD because many kids would not tell their parents if something is wrong until it got bad. So, I like it when the don't flush the toilet so I can keep an eye on things. I wish it didn't have to be like that. I'm hoping that since they were born before I got UC then I can worry a little bit less.

Same Gary...just a side effect of having this.
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Yeah, Andrina, I had no idea how much of a worry wart motherhood would bring on...as people often say, "if I could go back..." lol but yeah, mine were well aware of my bowel health issues so they will tell me whenever I ask, my daughter has IBS, my son's bowels *knocking on wood" so far so good and hoping it stays that way.

Once in a while my son will forget to flush but that's ok cuz then I can see for myself that his bowel health looks normal so for me it's a relief to see it lol as gross as that sounds, but it's different when it's your own kid no matter how old they are (both of mine are in their 20's) and I was in my early 20's when I became sick so of course I worry even more for them both now.

And yes Gary, we can only worry a little bit less, I didn't have IBD (or the obvious signs of it) until after I had my daughter when she was about a year and a half old, but obviously had it when my son came along so knowing my mom didn't even get her IBD until after me, didn't leave much room to worry less since I ended up getting sick before my mom did, which is just weird to me still.

I think it was just last year with my nine year old daughter when the school called me up at work and told me she was sick and had gone to the bathroom like 5 times in the last two hours and wanted me to pick her up. I was in such a panic and felt so sorry for her. I tried to console her as best as I could on the way home and then she told me that she had gone #1 five times in the last couple of hours. I was so relieved.

I get it... but you should definitely be teaching them to flush! Otherwise they'll forget in other people's houses too and that's not gonna leave a good impression. Much better to teach them about the signs so they can recognise them themselves, and create an open environment where they feel comfortable about telling you should something go wrong.

UC sucks either way but I think having children is a wonderful thing and I hope to be a mom someday

I'm sorry you lost your son that must have beem really difficult for you

Yeah. It's kind of funny how people post here not wanting kids because they don't want to take the chance of passing on IBD but if they didn't have IBD they seem to be perfectly fine with possibly passing on cancer genes, depression genes, and everything else. Every human being alive has genetic mutations of one kind or another.

My son was my FMT donor, and the doc said it was a perfect specimen LOL. My daughter is a little constipated. She clogs the toilet almost every time she manages to go. I worry about her...she was on antibiotics pretty much constantly from age 6 months to 3 years. These days, we refuse Augmentin and Amoxicillin. Pretty sure they caused C diff in her as a baby, but I didn't know that's what it was until I had it myself years later.

Sometimes I tell myself that I would gladly continue to suffer this if it would protect my kids. The deals we try to make...as if things actually work that way.

So, here I sit, with much of my life consumed by UC, while my brother has disabling schizophrenia. Our poor mother must be beside herself with worry. We've wondered if my dad's Agent Orange exposure damaged my brother :( I was born prior to that exposure.

I wish I could jump forward like 3 weeks and find out the core
I have had it for a few months only and am done

I wouldn't treat it as a certainty that they'll get uc (and checking daily sounds like that). Kids have an increased risk when a parent has uc but that's it, it's not certain. Pain, blood, and diarrhea are something they'd surely mention, if it were to happen. Age dependent, I'd tell them to let you know if anything is unusual about their poops.

Chiron said...
I had genetic testing done for something else a few years ago and it showed I'm 1.5 times more likely to get IBD than the average person, which is not that much. No one in my family has IBD, not even my aunts or uncles. So I'm kind of an anomaly. I know for some people it's hereditary but I don't totally buy that it's a guarantee it'll pass on to kids.

I really wonder about the epidemiology of such claims. We often see in the U.S. that obese parents have obese children but it's because they pass the lifestyle and eating habits on to their kids. I wonder if IBD works that way that is "passed on"... like a common environmental factor, or the way we eat, or the way we hold stress. Something.

I wish I could jump forward 50 years and see what they find out the cure is.

Except that if you do have it and then have kids, that automatically increases your offspring's chances to get it, that's just how it works. Doesn't mean they'll get it for sure, just means their chances are higher than a child who's parents don't have an IBD.

I really don't worry about it or think about it much, even though I'm the one who started this thread. I just happened to come across an unflushed toilet by one of my kids (again) and couldn't bring myself to say anything to them so it inspired me to start this thread.

Even though I suffer stress from time to time my personality is not to waste energy stressing out over things that may never happen, such as this. That doesn't mean I don't have occasional moments. There are people who are natural worry warts about everything.

The kids may get kidnapped, hit by a car, catch the new polio type virus going around, drown in the pool, choke on food, be in a plane crash, be hit by falling space junk, shot by a bad guy, die in a fire, die in a terrorist attack, be electrocuted, struck by lightening, be swept away by a tornado, get cancer, or get UC. Did I miss anything?

The chances of any of these things happening, including UC, are actually pretty small so I choose to live and enjoy our lives. Well, most of the time anyway.

Well said Gary and I agree 100% and think pretty much the same way.