Annoying people

How do I deal with people who think I'm faking
My mom calls me hypochondriac and she thinks I'm over reacting
I would like to see her reaction to crazy pain, cramps, bloody mucousy poos...
It's just so hurtful and it's because she doesn't get what I'm going thru and I don't know how to explain to her that she is being unintentionally nasty

Would she be willing to read the posts on this site?

my boyfriend is like that. Everything i say is false and unresearched. The only truth is the information that he hears directly from a doctor. It's really hard because it's always these same people who won't put 5 minutes into doing research to find out what it's like living with these illnesses, they assume they know everything. Very frustrating. Unfortunately, you can't change who you were born to - on the other hand, it's your choice how much you want to depend on her, and the more independent you are, the less you will need to tell her things or be around her. I don't speak to my mother. She always thought I was making up stories about everything. I just had an argument with my boyfriend about whether colitis can affect the rectum. He says it can't. I told him to look it up but he insists he must talk to the doctor or else he can not possibly get a true answer. All these years i've complained about my rectum and he never heard a thing. All the rectal medicine I shove up my butt, doesn't understand i guess. shocking.

I think sweety has a good point. This sounds like denial on your mom's part. If she doesn't admit you have serious health problems, then maybe you won't have them. All we can really do is to be patient and let some things roll on over us and go on. Sorry your shade is coming from your mother, that's a tough one.

It seems like we are all in a stinky boat together
She knows I have the disease cuz she was the one who stayed with me in the hospital when I was in so much pain I was hallucinating
She heard the doctors come in talk about how I was lucky to still have my colon and how they almost had to rush me to surfer
But than when I'm spending a half hour in the bathroom or something she thinks I'm a hypochondriac
But it's crazy how many people have family members or significant others who are the same way as my mom
I find it a bit degrading honestly but you can't pick your mom

I think she is trying to help but she is doing it in a hurtful way
I know she cares a lot about be because she spent weeks in the hospital with me(I wish she didn't) but she isn't very good at the emotional aspects of being a mom
i have told her I didn't like it but she didn't really get it
Oh well at least I tried

Normies (people without uc) often do not get uc. There's been many threads about it lol. Sucks it's your mom... Uc is an invisible disease, we look normal to everyone else, and they cannot see or understand our trials and tribulations.

You're pretty new at this, diagnosed the end of April. Time can help. People can react and cope to a new diagnosis in all sorts of ways, often it doesn't make much sense (denial, ignoring it, anger). My dear wife and I fought a lot after my initial diagnosis. It all settled down since, but it was a nightmare, uc + that.

We don't have control over your uc, but we do have control over what we tell others. If your mom isn't bring helpful then tell her as little as possible about your uc. As it sounds like she's not going to give you any sympathy, or assistance.

Ya, my mom was kinda the same way, but more often than anything she kept stressing me out about how I could have gotten such a terrible disease and would blame my dad for it...a couple years later she became sick with ulcerative colitis (I have crohn's disease but it's specific to the colon, though when I first became sick it was in my small intestine as well as colon, then rectum) so that's when I said to her that UC was basically the same disease I have and I got it from her after all and not my poor dad she blamed everything for.

I have a very good old time friend who never came out directly and challenged me but I could sense that she thought I was faking all the things wrong with me. Like how can one person cope and survive with as many issues right?? But after going to the ER multiple times, to being admitted (not Uc related) to posting pictures on FB of my Remicade drip; I think she finally understood where I was coming from. But it still bothered me none the less.

Some people just don't understand something they can't see or experience themselves. I've had Uc for a long time and I developed a tough skin. So these things don't bother me as much as it used to.

Hugs to you.

I got diagnosed in 2002 and some people in my life have never understood. My mum is one of the worst actually, especially for saying stupid insensitive things. I don't really have any good advice as it's a problem I can't get around either. I tend to just keep repeating myself, but I have to admit that I do get snappy sometimes.

One thing which might help is finding someone else who does get it. I have a friend with diabetes, and we can talk for hours about our illnesses. It really does help, even though our diseases are so different.

Healthy people just don't understand, and I suspect that they don't really care most of the time either. I only tell people that I can trust about my UC, or people that I am forced to tell, such as bosses.

As for the closest people to us, maybe they're just unable to face it? My ex-husband was frightened that I was going to die, so he kind of went the other way, but it still damaged the relationship.