Accident in public - mortified

I started having daily accidents after my large bowel resection. My UC attacked what was remaining and I was confined to my home and wore depends when I had to go out. Many times I couldn't go far. I tried to simply make it to the grocery store one day, halfway through my shopping I had an accident and had to leave. I went home to clean up, new pair of depends and went back...as I got out of my car to go back inside the store it happened again. Once again back home to clean and had to go back a third time. I could never feel them coming ahead of time, they just hit suddenly and no matter how hard I tried to hold it in, it never worked.

ya, that's unfortunately probably a nasty sign that things have taken a turn for the worse - time to address things now -

good luck -

Ugh it stinks doesn't it?!? I know it could be worse so I'm glad I'm not having to deal with a resection!

I'm currently on cortofoam in am and I'm- just started that (only a few days on it), Canasa at night, 50 Imuran, and Uceris (only on that one for a few days too).

The doc said it'll be a good week before I start to feel better but I didn't think it would get worse like this. I only had D once today so maybe that's all and it won't get worse? Ugh I hope so.

I wonder if I should call my doc?

Yes, the first accident is the worst. Sadly, after subsequent ones it becomes much easier (not something anyone should have to be good at). An accident is huge red waving flag that you're getting worse and need to dramatically shake up your current treatment routine. Try new treatments, get more aggressive, etc. And contact your gastroenterologist about the kind of urgency you're having as it's suggestive of severe rectal inflammation.

I've had multiple accidents while driving, at work, one at the grocery store, and a few miscellaneous ones here and there. A lot of us suffer from accidents over the course of uc, especially during bad flares.

Multiple accidents? I guess it doesn't get easier...or does it??

I was going to do a workout for 30 min today- cardio....I should prob wait until tomorrow and see if I feel better huh??

" Multiple accidents?" Sorry if my writing was confusing, I guess I should clarify what I meant. On several separate occasions/days, I had an accident while driving to work, on several separate occasions/days I had an accident while at work. I was flaring at the time and now I'm in remission.

The worst episode I had was an accident followed by a series of close calls. My DW really, really wanted to cross country skiing on a remote public muliti-use trail, on a side road a few miles from the house. My bms were usually bad early am, and then I had a window-of-freedom in the afternoon and then more bms in the evening. I took a risk and went skiing that fateful afternoon. We pulled into the parking lot and I had an accident as I was parking. I cleaned up, went commando, and starting skiing. A few minutes later urgency strikes again, I run in the woods and go (luckily I had tp in my pocket). Repeat several times. Luckily we were the only ones there, it was remote, and wooded (an old railbed that's abandoned). I had skiied perhaps a mile and there was road access a little bit ahead. I walked to the road, DW skiied quickly back to get the car and come rescue me. I speant the rest of the day near the toilet and bed ugh. Maybe I got a metal of courage for at least trying from DW lol. I believe she skiied herself the next time.

I had several in my home as I ran to toilet, but only 1 full on fill-the-pants in public accident. I was in a parking lot just outside my car. Suddenly I was standing in puddles around my ankles.

I just got in the car, drove home, cleaned up, and then got Lysol and cleaned the car. Was pretty bummed, but glad it only happened once.

Take every opportunity to visit the can.

Yeah its a bugger..and it makes you feel like crap!!

I feel terrible if I fart in front of someone, so I completely get it..I hope your feeling a bit better about it all today though, as there is nothing you can do about it, it is beyond your control,it is just the way of the disease unfortunately.

ipoop..I like your story!! it made me laugh, what a trooper you are!!

Any specific reason why you are not considering anti-diarrheal like Bentyl or Lomotil? I just can not live without it during my bad days. It works like a plug. During peak of the flare, I visit restroom only twice, as opposed to 40+ times.

I have had some crazy mishaps with flares, but most of the time, I would simply not go anywhere if I could avoid it. I work from home so I can usually stay around the house. On days when I couldn't, I would just not eat anything the entire day prior to going somewhere and not eat anything the day I was out. I would pig out when I got home. I really didn't have a choice, if I ate food, I would end up having a near accident. I had an incident where I had to toss my underwear once, that was about all I could handle. The stress of worrying about an accident, for me, was likely as bad as an actual accident. I was so fearful, I wouldn't leave the house. Even if I did, I would have to starve myself or go places where I knew there were bathrooms & multiple stalls. If i went to a place with only a single stall, that would stress me out. I drove around with plastic bags just in case, at least i'd have something to sit on. I didn't want to live like that forever - just the thought of a public incident mortified me. I feel so liberated of all that stuff. I don't even care if there is a bathroom anymore, nor do I care if there are multiple stalls. Being able to hold it is a dream. I never want to end up the way I was again. I know a big part of it was anxiety, but the fact that I had literally 3 seconds to get to a toilet certainly didn't help. I also don't want to wear diapers, that's not fun.

They make Depends now that looks and feels like real underwear. If you're ever in a situation where you feel you might need them, then feel free. Unfortunately, many of us can relate to your situation. I am in remission from UC and I STILL get accidents either from IBS or Diverticular disease. Thankfully it's far and few in between! But whether at home or in public, it's still shaming and mortifying at the same time.

I agree, I think you don't always need depends..it depends!! (Joke) ha ha!

I used one recently to get to the hospital and it was gross, I had to wear a dress over my trousers, you could see it plainly, what an eye sore!! not the look I was going for...I mean, a night sanitary pad does the trick, cos those diaper/pads only give you some time, time to get to the bathroom and clean up, and thats all you need, so I would use those instead I think, far more discreet.