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Posted 6/4/2008 8:16 PM (GMT 0)
so lately I have been down in the dumps, feeling sorry for myself, getting angry and bitter.  I felt somewhat better coming to terms with some things like surgery being a real possibility etc. and taking action on researching it and other meds.

So I have been thinking about how things are not going too well with my 2 diseases and then I just thought, hey I could have 3 or 4 etc.......What am I complaining about?  (just joking around.......ah, I crack myself up).

Posted 6/4/2008 9:43 PM (GMT 0)
When I'm feeling depressed over my many diseases/illnesses/conditions I take a step back from myself, count my blessings and the wonderful things in my life then think about the more serious diseases that I DON'T have. Yeah, sometimes we have to change our perspectives on things to get our heads on right.
Posted 6/4/2008 10:33 PM (GMT 0)
In one of the halls in my high school (in PA) there was a framed placard that read "I was poor and complained because I didn't have any shoes-- until I met a man who didn't have feet." I guess whoever hung it there wanted us to learn to stay positive because things could be worse. It's a shame that you suffered this setback with UC after returning from vacation, but, hopefully, you'll get it back under control before too long. Or you'll have a consultation & get helpful info in the near future. / Old Hat (nearly 30 yrs with left-sided UC ... [etc.])
Posted 6/5/2008 6:59 AM (GMT 0)
Making a decision is quite an awesome feeling....it doesn't come easily sometimes...and for some there will be regret, others it will be a relief. Beth, I can understand how you would feel about your decision about surgery.

I truly believe that it helps us to keep things in perspective. but only AFTER we understand and accept our own situation (subjective). We cannot negate our own "suffering" according to the measuring stick of another that we use to justify our feelings. There will always be someone else who is worse off...or eventually we might be.


I think it best we acknowledge whatever we're experiencing, allow ourselves the feeling for a while and then get on with functioning to the best of our abilities.

We never know what tomorrow will bring.....

I agree with seeing the positives and blessings in our lives along with all the other stuff. It all has to be put into a perspective that allows us to function without too much guilt or from becoming totally absorbed by our disease/disorder.

The grey area is most challenging.

quincy

Posted 6/5/2008 12:29 PM (GMT 0)
Whenever I start to feel sorry for myself, someone comes along who is struggling more than me. Right now it is my son's preschool teacher who has 7 kids. Her husband was diagnosed with 2 inoperable brain tumors....cancer....6-12 months. It sure didn't take long for me to count my blessings and turn all of my self-pity into a positive energy....like how and I going to help her get through this. I think what is the worst that will happen.....I lose my colon. It could be way worse. I could lose my life.
I just read the book by eckhart Tolle, and it is all about not letting your disease define you. If you do, that is who you become, and I refuse to become the horrible UC.
Posted 6/5/2008 1:18 PM (GMT 0)
That's a good idea, Beth. Sometimes I tell myself that even though I may have a risk of cancer, I don't actually have cancer or anything so bad like that.

leamonhead, which book by Eckhart Tolle did you read?

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