How do I start a website Dating-Dating those with your same illness?

Hi All,

I know some of us want to date, but dating can be hard if you don't want to open up about UC and I think dating someone with UC would be easier, b/c understanding would already be present and having one thing in common is already established.

I would like to start a dating matching service so that those who suffer with illnesses can find a mate with the same illness to have understanding and campanionship with and someone who can identify with what you are going through. Wouldn't this be nice for those who are looking to date, but are afraid to met anyone who wouldn't understand their dis-ease??

Once I came across a man, same age as me with UC and we talked for hours and shared stories and emtionally were on the same page together but he was married. What a comfort it is to know someone of the opposite sex is going through what you're going and can identify witht he urgencies, accidents, not feeling good and can be there for you emotionally.

Do you like this idea?

Oh no, it's a a terrible idea!  I mean, all you would do is sit around & talk about your bm's, or how your butt is feeling, & I bet you'd never actually "go" anywhere with the other person for fear of accidents, or bathroom issues. I guess what I mean is- sometimes, other "healthy" people can bring you up a bit, & make you do things you wouldn't decide to do on your own. If I'm feeling half-heartedly about an event or outing, my friend or husband will kind of urge me in to it. So I go & usually have a GREAT time. No problems. Maybe a few more bathroom trips than the average person. So wouldn't you think the 2 of you would just sit around & opt out of everything? I don't know... a person doesn't have to have a disease to be caring & empathetic. Besides, what is there to understand, really? We go to the bathroom a lot. If you're having a horrid day, there's no need to get into explicit details about it, just say you're not feeling well & would rather stay home.

Hi again,
I too am in the dating pool and the first thing I think of is, I'll have to drive seperatly b/c sometimes I shart in the car, that a nice after dinner send off. You have no idea how much spontaneous things I did b/4 this BS. I can't take long walks b/c I always have to poop. I'm really hoping this LDN kicks in soon.

thought of a possible benefit....... maybe sharing drugs... one prescription to benefit two? LOL. Might work out cheaper.
But could you imagine car trips? If ya weren't on the same "schedule" you'd never get anywhere. Bathroom stops every exit instead of every other. LOL.
but another up side is you could play a form of russian roulette... see who could hold it the longest. " oops honey... I lose " " actually honey I lose because its my week to do the laundry" LOL

Generally, I support anything that encourages love, so I think it is a grand idea for those looking for companionship and understanding.

Bowel Disease would bring the couple together (how romantic, eh?), but it would be all the other more interesting things about their personalities and lives that will keep them together.

thanks fot the laughs bubba. omg that was too funny.. I loved the dual toilet and QT idea.haha. And the one about sharing drugs. I can already see it. when one runs out the other tells his/her partner "oh honey i'm so forgetfull about my refills, what would i ever do without you."lol
when i first read the title i said that could be great. I mean the couple would have a really close and open relationship and if both are in remission that would be awesome b/c they would encourage eachother to live better and healthier by eating the same healthy foods and maybe excersing together and stuff. But then i read uncle bubbas responses and he made me luagh but he made a lot of sense too. So obviously there are pros and cons to this matching idea. But since i believe all relationships should start off as friendships then maybe the matching website should just be an "person introduction" website where someone could find more of a friendship than anything and if it led to somehthing more than that then that would be a plus from the whole thing. For example even if i knew of a guy (which i'm a guy too) in my area it would be cool just to talk to them and becomes friends. I have a lot of great friends, males and females, but none who really can relate to me and none that i can really talk seriously about my UC with.
therearemiracles you said in the title that it would be for people with the same illnesses so that may work out better than just UC since UC may quite posssible have the most annoying, embarrasing and highest likely symptoms.

You can always just look at the IBD site as a place to meet others in your area that have IBD. I know that when I had UC it sure was nice to meet others with UC and Crohn's. I made some great friends in our local CCFA.

Sue