Pregnancy

I have left sided UC, but I am pregnant (my first UC baby-I was diagnosed with UC after my second child was born), and am very excited about it.

I am not sure what specific questions you have regarding pregnancy, but I do think it is a highly individual choice. For us it was the right one. I am nervous about delivery and flaring post birth, but for now I am feeling good and trying not to spend too much time focusing on the inevitable.

The docs reassured me that Remicade would be safe, and I have seen a high risk doc who had indicated to me that while nothing is guaranteed (ever-even with parents who have no current heath concerns), the baby looks to be perfect, and is growing well. No markers for any problems as of right now.

Some people do worry about passing it along. I had already had 2 kids before diagnosis, so that question was answered for me, but even without it, the % is pretty low. I am not any more concerned about them inheriting my disease than I am about them getting cancer, or being kidnapped or hit by a car, or any of the other million and one things that I know could happen to them. (I don't spend my days worrying about those other things either, but I know that I can't take anything for granted) But again, this is a personal decision. I feel that if any of my kids get dealt a similar hand to mine, at least they have me to help them through it. And I have a great life. It isn't perfect, and I would love to have more energy and stamina like I did before UC, but UC is not the worst thing in the world to me. It gets tough when I am really sick, but to be honest, having my children is one of the things that gets me back on my feet as fast as possible.

Again, I am not sure specifically what your concerns might be, but there is a bit from my point of view.

Post Edited (Supa) : 5/29/2011 12:03:55 PM (GMT-6)

I can understand your point of view. I am in a very good place now, but have been in a good remission for over a year, so it is easier for me to feel that way.

*for me*, I knew in my heart, I would regret not trying for another baby. If it didnt work out, I could get past that, but I knew that UC or not, I would always wonder and wish I had tried it. I know that even if having this baby results in a horrible flare and I end up having surgery, it will be worth it to me 100%, and my family feels the same way. My DH and I talked a lot about those things prior to TTC this one, and honestly, that was one of his biggest concerns.

I have not experienced the kind of anxiety you mentioned. I am sorry you are dealing with that. I don't know how to advise you on that side of things, aside from saying that finding someone to talk to about all of this would probably be a great place to start getting past those feelings.

You are young-I was 25 when I got married and didn't have my oldest until I was 30! You have plenty of time to think about having another baby. Right now, it sounds like you need to put the focus on yourself as much as possible and try to find some peace with things. Huge ((((HUGS)))) to you.