Is U.C. Always like this?
Is life this hard for someone with UC? - 50.0% - 2 votes
Will it ever get easier? - 50.0% - 2 votes
quincy
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Posted 10/25/2011 4:50 PM (GMT 0)
understood and taken to heart. Bluntness can be mistaken for rudeness. But, on responding, one doesn't have to be rude or cutting either, and you have to admit that some have no problem with that.
q
WingZero
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Posted 10/25/2011 5:15 PM (GMT 0)
I think there is a time and place for being blunt, but not when it comes to things you cannot predict. And yes, some people are fine without the sugar-coating but that is assuming an opinion on the matter was even requested, which it wasn't.
beatUC
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Posted 10/25/2011 9:04 PM (GMT 0)
Stereo, Q is the debby downer of this forum, and she just keeps it coming!
Amiens, things may/probably get better, but it will take time and meds. There were many years where I couldn't travel, had to cancel meetings constantly, etc etc. Some people understood that it wasn't my fault -it was the disease, and others didn't.
I was once just like your bf, but have a great quality of life now after going on imuran and finding the right balance in my life.
UC is a brutal thing at times and you/him must do your own research. I've found there is much misunderstanding about UC even from doctors. If your relationship is for the long haul, it won't be easy but I guess that's what commitment is all about.
jujub
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Posted 10/26/2011 1:36 AM (GMT 0)
There's a time and place for personal arguements and name-calling, too, but it isn't on HealingWell. Asking only as a member, please take the bickering somewhere else. For someone trying to get information to help a loved one, it doesn't help. Thanks to all.
Red_34
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Posted 10/26/2011 2:56 AM (GMT 0)
Please remember that we don't allow flaming on this forum. Let's keep this civil.
WingZero
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Posted 10/26/2011 2:15 PM (GMT 0)
I apologize. My intentions were not to start an argument/flame war. Q, I'm sorry if I was too abrasive with my last comment.
beatUC
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Posted 10/26/2011 2:28 PM (GMT 0)
I believe most of us are just trying to be positive and helpful especially to the new people who come here looking for advice.
Some of the negative folks who have been haunting this place for years should be called out once in awhile I think.
It's healthy to have people sort of self-correct this forum within reason (no flamimg) , of course, for the greater good.
quincy
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Posted 10/26/2011 7:20 PM (GMT 0)
yeah, that told me...
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WingZero
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Posted 10/26/2011 9:18 PM (GMT 0)
/facepalm
Sibby
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Posted 10/27/2011 1:37 AM (GMT 0)
lol. No-filter people are never appreciated.
Amiens, every chronic disease is different. One may have some pain daily and another may be so bad you can't get out of bed. You should be honest with your partner. Imagine having the flu 24/7 for months. It's brutal.
But I don't know how it feels to have another chronic disease. Just say that before you get frustrated with him again.
He needs to get himself back to health before doing anything else. If you can't handle this then you'll have to make a decision on your relationship.
quincy
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Posted 10/27/2011 7:24 PM (GMT 0)
OK, just to clarify here and get it out...who is the facepalm frustration meant for and who is the no-filter person?
Red_34
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Posted 10/27/2011 9:49 PM (GMT 0)
We are getting off topic here peoples...lets keep this on track. By going off topic it is taking away from Amiens not to mention personal attacks are very unproductive and unsupportive.