Work is asking what is going on, how do I answer?

Quick version:  I asked for leeway in my arrival at work by half hour, now I am going past that by 5 - 10 minutes.  I am trying to pull out of a flare, using enemas, they are working  but come morning with the amount of sleep I do, it is already getting late to get out of house to work, then morning arrives and the enemas action is kicking in.  I think we know how this plays out. 

I got asked at work why aren't I abiding by the agreed to time previously.  I'm now feeling even more pressure and am really working hard at getting there on time. 

What do you guys suggest on how to handle this?  I emailed my supervisors information about UC to them so the know what it is about  I know I didn't have to but I did and that this is why I was asking for the leeway time.

I felt so defensive and angry and upset that they have to ask questions again that I cried a bit, not out of hurt because of the questions but from anger in having to explain this again.  And I feel that they don't believe me.

I am seeing my doctor tomorrow and will ask for a note to detail my condition and what I am going through to bring into work.  Again I know I dont have to do this but I really feel they don't believe me.

 

I just ran into this situation a few weeks ago. I just started a new job, which coincided with my first flare in 6 years (bleh). I had to call in sick 2 days in a row due to being in the hospital. My supervisor was nice about it, but I could tell he was a little skeptical, so I brought him a note from my doctor. That seemed to make everything better. Now he's really nice about it and has even offered to let me work from home occasionally if symptoms are really bad. Honesty is the best policy, with something tangible like a doctor's note to help. I hope it all works out!

That also happened to me when I got stuck with an intolerant dept. head during reorganization imposed by top-level managers! (She actually informed me that her sympathy was limited to visually-impaired people because she had to start wearing glasses during elementary school!!!!!) Luckily, a top-level manager then decided that our dept. staff should go on more flexible, staggered start/stop work schedules due to major problems with the regional mass transit system. I was spared further harrassment because colleagues were also arriving late-- due to commuter line breakdowns! Since then in the U.S. IBD has been added as a covered condition to the Americans with Disabilities Act , which requires employers to cooperate in making adjustments that help impaired workers to remain in their jobs. Definitely contact your doctor about this A.M. problem and get medical confirmation sent to your employer. Try not to worry about what others may think ... most workplaces have at least 1 of that type of busybody who clocks other staff instead of minding their own business. / Old Hat (31 yrs with left-sided UC; presently in remission taking brandname Colazal)

When I was working I adjusted my whole life to be sure I was up at least three hours before I needed to leave for work. My manager had agreed I could come in as late as 9 AM when needed, but I really wanted to make it by 8 if possible. I got up at 5 every morning in hopes of leaving home between 7:30 and 8.

My manager, peers and the people I supervised all knew what was going on with me and that made it for a better work environment for me.

I think you have gotten some good advice. When you come in late do you also stay later in the afternoon/evening to "make up" for lost time? I think that helps with both the boss and peers if you are still working the same hours as everyone else but just on an adjusted schedule.