Humans have something nowadays is called a "plastic mind". We can form ourselves and our feelings:
Imagine a field with something growing on. If you walk once upon that field, there is almost no tracks there. It is almost the same easy to take another path, but the more often you walk the same path, the less you want to do the work of making another one. Soon you have almost a road through the field.
This with negative thinking makes a path in our brain. It is hard to walk away from that path, but it is possible. You need to create a new positive path. The old path is then slowly, slowly disappearing.
I know this is difficult, and it requires a lot of attention. It requires you to try to think positively about
somebody you hate at the moment. Sounds crazy? Yet, it is the only way out of such depression as anger and hatred is only destroying yourself but not the one you are angry at.
In courses to get out from depression they give you a couple of weeks which during you are not even allowed to have one single critical thought about
anything. As soon as one negative thought comes, those two weeks begins over again. Not even constructive criticism is allowed during those initial two weeks. After a successful period of two weeks with just positive thoughts some constructive critical thinking can be allowed.
What I described is something called Cognitive Theraphy.
I do not know if I am allowed to say this in the forum, but I am sure prayers can help you in creating your new paths. I think it is good for a person to give the troubles to God. And when praying for another person, you have very difficult to hate the person in the moment you do it. Even thou Cognitive Theraphy is science based, I think it has better result when combined with prayers.
Post Edited (engblom) : 12/10/2012 7:21:50 AM (GMT-7)