am i doomed?

For some reason at night, after I lie down, I get REALLY bad gas. I have not been diagnosed with anything, and have consulted with my physician as to what may be causing this problem. I have tried Gas X and other medications (e.g., Lomotil), but to no avail. I do not date seriously because of this issue, it is highly embarrasing. In fact, my ex - we had a great relationship and eventually went on vacation together where we did sleep in the same bed - broke up with me right after our return. This is seriously affecting my life and my chances at a relationship. I'm too embarassed to say anything, and I was wondering if anyone out there had any suggestions. My diet is fairly healthy, I workout, don't eat late, etc. I do have acid reflux and take Nexium in the mornings.

I feel like I'm doomed to be single forever because of this, and it really sucks.

The only thing I know from own experience is really efficient when it comes to gas is food combination!

You can google for food combination and see how to categorize things. The rules are basically like this:

1. Never mix fruits with vegetables.

2. Never mix food rich of carbohydrates with food rich of protein.

Let the stomach rest between each meal. If you have the meals too tight after each other, it will cause the same trouble.

There is a lot of food that will fall into a neutral category. All leafy green vegetables, for example. Those can be eaten either in a protein or a carbohydrate meal.

A sandwich with peanut butter is for example forbidden as it is a strong protein source (peanut) mixed with a strong carbohydrate (grain).

If this works for you, you will notice improvement after 1-2 days. Probably 24 hours will be enough to see some improvement.

Try also to leave out dairy.

Post Edited (engblom) : 1/29/2013 3:22:51 AM (GMT-7)

How long has this been going on? What did the doc say? You are not doomed. You just need to figure this out. I'm guessing you have the gas before you are laying down but it only becomes apparent when your body position shifts to laying down. Most people don't realize that the antigas meds don't actually decrease gas. What they do is combine tons of tiny gas bubbles into bigger gas bubbles, making it easier and quicker to expel, thereby relieving the problem.

maryjane: Just some fatherly advice - you may need to re-evaluate how you think of boyfriends since you would have "stood by him come hell or high water" and, in the end, he didn't deserve it. I have seen too many women who put a lot more into a relationship than what they get back out of it. There's absolutely nothing wrong with standing by someone like you would have done for him but somehow you need to figure out if you are with someone who would be willing to do the same for you. In this particular case, you were wrong. To make you feel better though, this idiot will wind up being a lonely old man with MS and you will be with someone you deserve.

Well...for what it's worth, sounds like it's good you found this out before you invested too much in the relationship. Ie. marriage, kids, investments, etc.

I was married five years and had a son, and my UC is definately in the back of my mind in regards to my eventual divorce. Not everyone can cope with these types of issues.

I can definately relate to being self conscious about your condition. I am a total gym rat. It's pretty much my second home. Lol. But I know that a lot of my fitness addiction is due to the fact that i'm very self conscious of my disease. Sometimes I feel i'm destined to live a lonely life, and not a lot of women will overlook my UC. Is most of it in my head?...most certainly.

You seem like one heck of a catch...for any guy. :) Hope you find some answers to help with your symptoms.

TJ

thanks TJ :)

sfc425: i'm still hurting pretty badly from how he did things (or didn't, as it were). still trying to forgive him but it's difficult, seeing as how i am SO not quick to trust (and he poots in his sleep too!). there will never be an alternative; breaking up over something like that is juvenile and immature, something i can't really deal with in a guy. he never gave any hint of dissatisfaction until he broke up with me; we actually had made plans the evening before. the next day i called and sent him a text (nothing ugly), and one text later it was over, no explanation (i found out the reason from one a mutual friend, so him discussing that was even more hurtful). hopefully i will figure out wth with this condition and tweak my diet and see if that helps. if not, back to the doc. thanks for your advice, feedback, and kind consideration :)

maryjane1234 said...


sfc425: i'm still hurting pretty badly from how he did things (or didn't, as it were). still trying to forgive him but it's difficult, seeing as how i am SO not quick to trust (and he poots in his sleep too!). there will never be an alternative; breaking up over something like that is juvenile and immature, something i can't really deal with in a guy. he never gave any hint of dissatisfaction until he broke up with me; we actually had made plans the evening before. the next day i called and sent him a text (nothing ugly), and one text later it was over, no explanation (i found out the reason from one a mutual friend, so him discussing that was even more hurtful). hopefully i will figure out wth with this condition and tweak my diet and see if that helps. if not, back to the doc. thanks for your advice, feedback, and kind consideration :)

decisions like this can be more difficult to carry out than they are to make. maybe it was something he had been thinking about for a long time but did not feel comfortable discussing out of consideration for your feelings? maybe he felt horrible for holding something you can't control against you and couldn't think of a "mature" or "appropriate" way to go about doing so. none of those explanations should be confused for valid excuses to behave like he did - it just may be a useful perspective to for you to take into consideration.

I know that it is difficult for me to imagine someone wanting to be with me and my UC/IBS affectations every day, but that is part of the deal they'd have to sign up for when entering a relationship. some people may initially think they'd be okay with it but there is no way of knowing until they go through the experience. again, this doesn't excuse his behavior, it just may give you more of an explanation.

and this is all why I think he was wrong for you. not because of how he handled the break-up. most break-ups are handled poorly and end with one or both parties quite bitter and angry at each other. he's clearly not capable of being there for you, so don't worry about "how" he came to this conclusion and just understand that he did. as long as you keep a positive, open mind, someone else who is better will be more accepting and perhaps do a better job of showing you so.

in essence: it doesn't matter why you broke up at the end of the day, because it's over regardless. so don't sweat this too much and find someone better who you deserve.

all I'd suggest is that you get over the bitterness sooner than later. because it seems to be something you're dwelling on right now - which is understandable - but could lead to more anxiety with regards to your flatulence and IBD than you need.

so this guy sucks, he broke up with you for SOME reason, and is gone. now it's time to forget about him and find someone better.

thanks big betty!!! :)

My girlfriend passes gas all the time, I've never seen it as a big deal, I think most other guys don't either, just a natural bodily function. This guy was just a unique case.
Don't let it worry you. Talk to a doctor. Experiment with your diet by eliminating foods like dairy

And I saw you mentioned you're a rep for Beachbody. Do you use any of the meal replacement stuff? The crap (IMO) that's in those things could definitely be the source of your gas.

The usual cause of gas is diet. Try eliminating dairy from your diet for a week - milk, cheeses, ice cream, etc. If that takes care of the problem, you are likely lactose intolerant and have found your solution. This is a really common cause of excessive flatulence.

Just to keep things in perspective I read not too long ago that a normal person passes gas an average of 14 times per day.