Silver,
Welcome to the forum.
I am glad you found us, although I am sorry you have to be a part of this terrible club.
You've gotten some good advice already.
There is no question that getting this diagnosis sucks, it sucks big time!
I know that when I was first diagnosed I was overwhelmed with tons of emotions, anger, grief, depression - basically the 5 stages of grief.
And that's ok. It's part of the process. Please don't get down on yourself about any of it. Learning to cope with this disease is a huge thing, and at times, especially as a newbie, OVERWHELMING. We're here to help.
Silver, if you can write a sig, it will help us all answer your questions- as to dx, meds taken, etc....
If anxiety is a big issue in your life, I would recommend you ask your doc to prescribe xanax ( even a minor dosage can make a huge difference in the ability to handle stress and anxiety), as it will help reduce the anxiety, but it also has a "quieting" effect on the whole intestinal tract. I'm not suggesting you become dependent upon it, but use it wisely in these initial months until you get used to managing your disease.
Also, there are many things you can do in addition to meds to help control your symptoms. I found the greatest symptom reducers to be:
slippery elm powder it coats the whole alimentary canal, l-glutamine amino acid powder to handle the diarrhea ( and also for long term colonic repair), probiotics are key as well, are you taking any of these?
Then when was the last time you were checked for vitamin d3 levels being low? There's a big correlation between low levels and IBD.
And then there is diet modification, specifically being gluten and dairy free - I think you may be surprised at how big a a difference these things may make in reducing accidents, risk of accidents, and overall symptoms.
It's tough at first, but then you get used to a new way of eating. I am on the Paleo diet, anti-inflammatory diet. Do I ever cheat and have pizza? You bet - but I take a "cheat" remedy to ensure I won't pay too heavy a price.
As for the bleeding, the ONLY thing that helped reduce my bleeding to ZERO was LDN, low dose naltrexone ( there's a post about it on the UC resources page, so check it out) - a cheap drug with almost NO side effect.
Anyways, if any of this interests you, there are things IMO that you can control, which will have a direct impact on your disease, the symptoms you experience and their severity.
I was able to control my UC into remission through various supplements, probiotics, diet modification, and LDN , low dose naltrexone.
For more info on the protocol which has put me into remission, please go to this link: https://www.healingwell.com/community/default.aspx?f=38&m=1666318 , and look at the 11th post.
I hope you feel better and let us know how we can help you.