a good cry

Been dealing with a lot of issues including nasty UC flare-up, Pred and bereavement lately. Got into my car after feeling nervy and shaky all day with no nights sleep . All of a suddent burst into tears for a bit. And you know what....i feel so much better. It's like I had heaps of emotion stored up in my body and a good cry let it all out where otherwise it would fester.

Bit of an alpha-male here so admitting to that makes me cringe. Anyone find crying a good stress reliever? Do you do anything else to let the emotion out?

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As a guy on concur on how difficult it can be to cry and to admit it afterwards. I mean, men are supposed to be tough, non-emotional, and all that (reinforced by well pretty much everything) and I think a guy is only allowed to cry in a few distinct circumstances: death of his dog or a close relative, and well that is pretty much it. Where as a woman can cry pretty much whenever and that's perfectly okay (for no reason at all, over a movie or book, or you know to instantly win a fight with her bf/husband lol).

Glad it worked for you man!

Crying releases hormones and endorphins that help "clear the mental paths" actually.

damo...sincerest condolences.

The body and mind can only handle so much. And alpha males do cry...those who don't tend to create destruction to hurt others, because they're too cool to cry. While anger is a hugely satisfying emotion, it doesn't allow clear/objective  thinking. Crying, when it's over, does.

q

I hug with no problem....consider yourself hugged. If others want to join in...sure! Although I'm not a guy...hope that's OK?

q

damo123 said...
thanks for all that...i think a good cry has done more for me then most of my meds....i may add it to my signature especially to encourage most of us guys to cry over non-football related topics!!

on a more serious note i'm intrigued at how i was able to get this emotion out of my body and where it wouold have gone, and the harm it would have done, if the energy hadn't dissipated!!

Group hug everybody?

I often have the desire for a group hug in these forums, especially when reading posts of people candidly sharing their sufferings. I just wish I could hug them and make their pains go away. Good that you got some relief from the cry session. It's a good moment where we can all learn of the psychological aspect of this illness, and how feeling better in the mind to some degree translates to a better perception of how one is actually feeling.

garylouisville said...
That's what I've been doing wrong for these last three years! I have sucked up and took this disease like a man. I think my wife wonders why I have never broken down (she never really says much) and I always think to myself that if I could let out a good cry to cure this disease I would do it. Since I didn't believe it would work I've never tried it. I'm not a true believer though so I may have to try finding some onions.

There's always the opposite avenue to crying from sadness or frustration, there's crying from joy.

Some really touching videos online are at this site called Welcome Home Blog, where soldiers typically surprise their loved ones by returning home from duty. It's very sweet to see these touching reunions.

welcomehomeblog.com/

Glad to hear it helped you get a good nights sleep & BM damo123. Hey man whatever works just do it. So cry away brother.