nanc,From the little I know, with your 3rd hernia you are right in looking into more than a few opinions. I would look for the best surgeon in your area that deals with this type of problem and get all the info and then sit down and make a list of the pros and cons of each Drs. advice; choose the one that makes you feel most comfortable and confident that the procedure will meet your needs.
I am sure you will hear from other members who have been in the exact same position that you are in.
Sending you positive vibes.
Kitt