Welcome Jemima and Music Lady!
I'm sorry to hear about your son. I was dx at age 11 w/JRA and it eventually (supposedly) went in to remission as well...then came back horribly at 25 (this was after many years of pain and doctors saying 'it's nothing') I could go on, but long story short, I am 36 and have psoriatic arthritis now and have a long list of issues. However, nothing compared to your son! Where in CA are you staying? I'm in Southern California. Someone here has recommended a great rhuemy in Riverside, one here in San Diego, and I know of one up in the San Jose/Silcon Valley. Good luck and hang in there! Please come post any time you need, we're all here to help each other out!
Music Lady - I use T-Gel for shampoo a few days a week, it helps a little. I think there there are other shampoos that work better for some here, hopefully, they can give you some suggestions to try. The doc Rx'd this cortizone liquid to put on my scalp, I rarely use it unless I'm at my wits end for help....it is hard for me to use because it's been so hot here, I'm alway afraid it'll sweat in to my eyes. I swear it makes me jittery too - the ointment for my rashes doesn't seem to, but the scalp stuff did.
Gotta get the little ones to bed....Take care.
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