What to do when rheumatologist refuses to treat

Mine is a long story:
I have been battling concomitant ailments for about 10 years, osteoarthritis (OA), fibromyalgia (FM) carpal tunnel (CT). I acutally have the none wear and tear OA the bad one called severe generalized idiopathic OA this is multiple sites of no known cause. For example my elbows, ankles, knees, hands, thumbs, spine are all affected and they vary in the severity. My right knee is worse, my right hand but left thumb are worse and so on. I have had 3 lumbar spine surgeries. My cervical spine is not doing very well at all but is confounded by the OA in the hands and the carpal tunnel. I had nerve transpostion surgery done on both elbows, the ulna nerves, the surgeon insisted that this was needed. He was the specialist in his field, highly recommended. That surgery was not a good idea and as far as I am concerned was not necessary. It did nothing for my elbow pain which now is being called tennis elbow and golfer's elbow bursitis. What the heck?
So my GP who is just a great guy, has been looking at me and saying "have we seen a rhuematologist yet?" So I made an appointment and waited over a month to see the guy. Well big mistake, the app. was scheduled for an hour and I gave a stack of paperwork MRIs, CTs, surgical reports the entire medical file just without doctor notes. So he walks in with a chip on his shoulder sits and grills me on what's what and then asks me "What do you want me to do for you?" So I am prepared and explain my GP's position and it's getting to be a bit much for the GP. I need someone to help manage all this stuff. For example when a doctor like my spine surgeon sends me for post op PT it does not take into account my other ailments, and inevitably they try to make me do exercises that need a bit of adjustments due to knee OA, hand OA, the FM. They all write the same order ROM (range of motion) and strengthen. I cannot comply with the arm bike with these elbows, they need to be heated and massaged before I can use the arm bike and so on. And when everyone decided to inject corticosteroids, two years ago I had so many injections I had elevated sugar and elevated eye pressure in both eyes. It turns out I was getting too many injections by too many different docs. Pain management in my lumbar spine, my GP injecting my knees and so on for several months. I need someone to manage this and keep track. He just looked at me and said that since I had been to pain management in the past and I have the neurosurgeon he saw no need for my seeing him. Then he semi examines my knees, does the leg raise stuff and feels around my hands. He then says he sees no evidence of autoimmune disease and that is that, he is going out the door and motioning me to leave as well. So the scheduled 60 minutes in fact was only 15 minutes and 5 of that I waited for him to come in.
I was in tears all the way home, tell me, was it me? Did I do something wrong? He came in that door with a big chip on his shoulder, bad day maybe. I don't understand what I did wrong. I have not had an easy time of this, it's a long time, a lot of surgery that did not help. A lot of PT, chiropractic, pain management and so on. I needed this doctor to care for my arthritis and FM and every thing in between. What happened?
I am in the midst of a major flare of the FM due to other issues medical and personal. I can be a little forgetful, seem a little fuzzy. But this is exactly what happened.

In this 10 year battle I have seen 3 rheumies and the outcome is the same. In the beginning the first one was horrible. It became clear on the first visit that there were issues. He did not conduct the examination a PA did. He only came in to tell me the findings of the exam: osteoarthritis, degenerative disc and joint disease and fibromyalgia. Then he left and the PA came back and said "Do you have any questions?" I had lots but was so put off I couldn't articulate them fast enough. She handed the orders for blood work and an MRI of C-spine and L-spine and sent me on my way. My second app. they cancelled the PA was going away for a couple weeks. I asked about seeing the doctor and was told that he didn't really see the patients. A friend at work, when she found out who I saw explained it all: she worked for him years ago, he had a patient claim that he fondled her, he was highly intelligent but not personable, and not the type to fondle. The case went to court and he was ordered to not see patients without another staff in the room. But why couldn't he see me with one of the 1/2 a dozen or so people working with him? Finally on my return visit she said that PT might help and I suffered through 16 weeks, yes 16 weeks of PT for my neck and back. The order was access, range of motion and strengthen. So 3 days a week for 16 weeks I went. It was horrible I would leave in worse pain, with horrible headaches and the therapist the next day would say "oh, I didn't cause that." So after that the PA said that I was being difficult and she cut me loose.
The second one, I put together a packet with my MRI reports, blood work results and PT notes. He said "You are intelligent, you understand you disease, you have access to all the data (I work for a pharma company) and you know the treatment options are limited to PT, medications. You know there is no cure and we really cannot stop the disease process. I don't think you want to come here month after month and sit in the waiting room with all the old people just to talk about your aches and pains for 15 minutes. No need to see you as a patient and I am not even going to charge you for the visit." That was that.
The third one was just a couple months ago and he didn't want to see me.
So what do you do? How many more doctors do I see? I have my GP, my spine surgeon, my ankle guy, my knee guy, my hand guy moved away. I guess I have to do what my pain guy said "everybody has a cross to bear, this is yours". He really is a good doctor and has helped me in the past and cuts me loose when he knows we can't do anything more. He had recommended me to surgery when my lumbar/sciatica got so bad I could not walk. I think I need to really bring it all to him. He seems my best option.

The pain specialist is who most people go to if they need narcotic pain medication. In Central NY the patients sign long consents for even small prescriptions of narcotic. Arthritis is a disease that is not treated with narcotics because people just hurt themselves worse! They can't feel the pain and don't rest or restrict, simply taking another pill. Have u tried Osteo Biflex or fla oil and taken it for a month or more. Cut down on salts n sugars, rest. Massage is great, but doctors can't do much for you. I have had arthritis since age 3. Good luck with your health.