Petey, Hope things are going better for you. I work in a senior enviornment,and we are always looking for different ways to bathe people. One thing I learned is that they do not have to get in the shower to get clean. There was a lady that could not get her husband to shower. So she got some no rinse soap and used a wash cloth and when he was sleeeping she started with one side of his face. She cleaned him gently and if he stirred she stopped. She would wait until the next night and take up where she left off. Eventually she got him all clean within a few days. She repeated the cleansing process after she was done. It seems like a pain in the butt but it works.Sometimes telling someone they have an odor helps them especially if they were very clean in their younger days. They dont always take it personally if it is one of their loved ones.