Just found out Mom has AD

I'm new to this area.  I've posted before on chronic pain.  My mom was diagnosed a few month ago with AD but it has been coming on for awhile.  She is 81 years old and is going down hill fast.  My two brothers and I are going over to her house tomorrow to talk to her about moving her into an assisted living facility.  We've toured the facility and it's lovely.  Also my brother is on the Board of Directors of the place.

I'm sick at heart to be doing this.  I physically can't care for my mother and my brothers have their reasons as well.  Mom only lives a few blocks from me.  When she moves she'll be 20 minutes away.  I sound like a little girl missing her mommy, but we've always lived close to each other.  I feel like such a Judas for placing her in a home and I just don't know how to handle it.  All I do is cry.  I know it's in her best interests but I'm  just sick.  Someone please help me.  How do you handle this? 

Thanks.

Lyn - I'm sorry for your loss of your mom and for you in the loss of your real dad even though he is still here with you.  Life seems to just knock the wind out of us on a continuous.  Five years ago my 25 year old daughter was in a drunk driving accident (she wasn't driving) and is now a quadriplegic.  God brought a wonderful man into her life and they were married on Sept 6, 2006.  We are so proud of them and I am especially proud of my daughter.  She is a very strong woman.

Thanks again for the support and for the references to read.

Take care!