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Posted 1/18/2008 1:32 PM (GMT 0)
I called my gmas family doc (first) and explained to him what was going with her, so I tricked her into going for a routine physical.  She would never have gone if I told her it was to check her mental status.  Anyway, he wasn't 100% that she has AD.  He did state that she may be experiencing some sort of dementia - but the possibility of AD is still there.  Some more testing has to be done.  She does exhibit signs of sundowners and from what I read, this can be an early indication of AD?

So anyway, here are my questions. I'm trying to understand her behavior - if a such thing can happen!  But she is highly secretive when she gets something to eat.  I have told her numerous times that she doesn't have to hide what she is getting out of the cupboard because our food is her food.  She will take cookies out of the cupboard and when I walk into the kitchen, she quickly puts it back like she was doing something wrong.  Plus, I have found cookies with one bite out of them and then they're put back.  Any ideas on how to handle that?

Also, her temper gets short with my husband and my daughter.  This makes my hubby feel sort of bad, like he's doing something wrong and I won't even start on with my daughter.  I'm a constant referee between gma and my daughter.  My daughter is 12 and no matter what, she seems to not be able to do anything right by my gma though she tries!  She has since become immune to her antics since I've explained to her to not take it personally.  My son and I can do no wrong in her eyes but I'm tired of being the referee.  I guess this wasn't so much a question but a vent!

 

Posted 1/18/2008 2:21 PM (GMT 0)
Hi Red
Yes Sundowning can be the beeginnings of AD..My dad has the sundowning
As for the food many AD pple will do that they sneak the food for whatever the reason and if caught quickly put it back .Taking one bite and putting it back sounds funny but I know it is a cause for concern
Personally I would take all the ones she has biten out of and put them on a plate with some wrap and set in her room....as well as couple of other cookies ......perhaps if you put alil snack plate in her room nightly she will enjoy that
Maybe instead of her thinking your daughter is bad or whatever you might have your daughter set it in there while she is in the room" Here's some cookies GMA kinda thing
Mom was like that with Cait and I put it down to the fact that she saw so much of Cait in me ya know the good and the bad lol.....
It is not an easy job you are doing but you are doing great IMHO .........
I hope I have been of some help and I know that you need to vent believe me .I have my siblings all up in my face to put dad in a home .NOT in my lifetime
Take care and try this hoping it will work for you's

LYN
Posted 1/18/2008 2:39 PM (GMT 0)
That's a great idea Lyn. Thank you! I'm sure if I got my daughter to do more with gma that it might turn the tables for her. Of course, trying to get a self centered preteen to think of anyone but herself it a bit of a challenge too! :) But I like the idea of the cookie gathering. It is sort of funny actually - my hubby will go into the cupboard and say "Whoops, gma was in the cookies again!"

I know what you mean about a nursing home. I wouldn't do that to gma too unless it was absolutely necessary. Like if she was unable to control her bodily functions anymore or wandering off - then and only then would I consider a home. I would feel absolutely horrible though if it came down to that. I'm pretty much all she has and she just sings the praises to anyone that will listen on how good I am to her. I feel as if she put me on a pedastal I now I'm afraid of falling off it if you know what I mean?

But I'm sure as she progresses to the worse (if she does) that I may have more questions as to how to deal with it. I'm in new territory here!
Posted 1/18/2008 3:21 PM (GMT 0)
LOL i have ateen too Red so I hear ya BUT oddly enough Cait LIKES to do things for Poppa..........go figure
She makes his lil snack plates up and they chat about the "Old Days " and Cait reads to him he loves it
Ya Dad has me way up there too I know how ya feel its along way to the floor
But not to worry we will not crash we will help one another thru this hun k

ANYTIME..........I am here for you
Luvs
LYN
Posted 1/20/2008 8:19 PM (GMT 0)
How is it going Red did the trick work with your daughtwer and GMom.........
Keep me posted plz

In Friendship
Luvs
LYN
Posted 1/21/2008 2:22 AM (GMT 0)
Lol well, my daughter hasn't been home all weekend. She's been at friends houses so we will see when I can get her to stay home. We have a 3 day weekend here in the states due to Martin Luther King Jr.s bday so of course she's been taking advantage of it!
Posted 1/22/2008 12:18 AM (GMT 0)
LOL
Well keep me posted
'I have Dad here so siblings cannot get to him and then I make sure he is all tucked in and comfy ....then do threads ..its sure has changed my routine .....BUT I will get thru it as long as I dont have to face siblings and perhaps choke one of them lol
Take care

In friendship
Lyn
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