Father very demanding with frontal lobe dementia

I really don't have much advice for you. I know it's hard to deal with someone who is difficult let alone one that has dementia that magnifies the issue. Does he take any medication? My gma was on Namenda and it helped with her emotional issues tremendously - she wasn't mean or anything like that, just really weepy all the time. If he is not on meds perhaps you or your mother can ask about one that can help stabilize his moods?

Thanks for your replies etc.

No he had tried a few different meds including Aricept which have had no effect - they said it coudl be that nothing will help his mood - to talk to him he seems normal - he is just very demanding (he has always been a bit hard to please anyway) but i cant remember my childhood really and what he was like then - but my parents argued a lot.

He is not hallucinating as he is quite lucid - he has reduced people to tears due to his shouting and swearing at them when they are trying to do things for him e.g. his personal care etc - even myself or my mum if we dont do things quick enough/correctly etc... its no surpise the home want rid of him. he is not a good patient.

Thanks. My dad is in a specialist home - has been for 2 years now.. there are no others around - and this home is well known for taking people with really difficult and challenging behavioural issues. We are waiting for social services to see about another home posibly one for mental health people or something (I am in UK).

He cant walk; has no motivation to do anything apart from watch TV and eat.. he cannot even keep his feel on a wheelchair footrest and his feet drag.. so cant take him anywhere.. i have tried as much as i can to encourage him.... Its like floging a dead horse with my dad. so we just dont bother now. he hates being in a home and constantly moans about the people being useless. he is not an easy character anyway before the dementia. very hard to please and have tried everything to make his life better.

my mother is getting quite mean with every one i have to take care of her and the Alzheimers leaders said it is her frustration she cant do the things she use to be able to do and at times they have clarity and it saddens them to see their self as a child and they cant get their body to do what they want it to so they get frustrated and have loosed there words so for some reason bad mean heat full words they r ember some how i believe they want you to fell just as bad as they do and they cant articulate like they had so they say things that will hurt you and the care givers here it all the time however its new to you and we take it to heart that our loved one who was so kind to us and it makes us cry and fell bad and be frustrated trying to help and then they say bad remarks it makes you ashamed in public at first because you know you or who you put in charge would never hurt them but people around them on the out side word don't know whats going on so i find my self being so frustrated that some time it makes it worse .i have found if you just step away take a deep breath it will be better crying does help and r ember she or he is not the parent that raised you the love and your memories are still their and in a flash they may r ember something to brighten your day . Can you have him transported to your home for holidays it may help doing pleasant events or get a pop bottle fill it with little trinkets and corn tape the lid and help him shake it and see how many items he can find if you get the brain moving he may do a little better

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