MOM passed away

It is a hard disease.
I am thinking of you.
dammy

Sorry for your loss.............

Dear Forget-me-not,

I just planted some of those flowers in my garden last week. Now I will think of you and your mother every time I water them.

I am so pleased that you were able to care for mom at home for SO long!! God bless you dear! Of course you are not over it yet. But I hope you don't have any guilt eiter. We do what we can do and we can't do everything . . . so be kind to yourself sis!!

I love to think of your mom in heaven with a brand new (perfect) body that works well!!! I wish you could see how happy she is. You did good sis!!!!

Blessings!

Well . . .I went out and watered my Forget-me-nots this evening . . . and I thought about you and your mom!!

You sound like you will do well. You just haven't found a good groov yet. When you care for someone around the clock like you did for your mom, it is a very difficult loss. It is like losing a child. Your entire life for the last 10 or 15 years has revolved around your mother's care. That leaves a great big empty space in your life now.

To top it off . . . friends probably are relieved for you and think that your life should be better now that your don't have the responsibility of your mom's care . . . so that just adds to the hurt.

I hope that just the right thing comes along for you sis. I'll be thinking of you.

Blessings!

Hi, Chevy.   Thanks for your reply.  I was sorry to hear about your MOM passing away with cancer.  Also, sad to hear that your Aunt has Alzheimer's.  It really does seem to speed up, when there is a traumatic experience that they go through.  My MOM's Alzheimer's got worse when my DAD passed away suddenly of a heart attack.  My sister and my mother found him outside on the ground with an axe in his hand, as he was chopping wood, (we lived in the country on a farm).  He had a massive heart attack and passed away, while chopping the wood.  Then about 3 years ago, MOM fell in my driveway, and broke her hip, and that trauma to her body, really sent her deeper into Alzheimer's.  Then lastly, her brother died of a heart attack, he was 91 and she was 96, and she used to call him her "little brother", it was so cute, when in a moment of wisdom, she recognized him, and referred to him that way.  His death was 3 months before hers, as the Alzheimer's hit the last stage, and she went down hill very quickly, forgetting how to eat, and speak, etc.  There is a lot of help out there for  family's with a loved one that has Alzheimer's.  In Canada, where I live, the Canadian Red Cross offers homemaker service, the Alzheimer's Society checks up on the caregiver, and helps any way they can, although, the Alzheimer Society kept wanting my sister and I to put MOM in a nursing home, and said at one point, they could do it whether we agreed or not, if they wanted to.  That really bothered me.  Also, there is Respite, we had a lovely lady come in a play songs (the old fashioned ones) to Mom, and sing, and show her pictures in a beautiful big book, etc.  These services are usually free, too.  Hope this helps.  Will keep you in my prayers, sincerely, Forget-me-not. 

Dear Forget-me-not,

I am so deeply sorry for your loss of your mother and father. I too live in Canada, and have lost both of my parents. My mom died shortly after my 18th birthday after struggling for two years, perhaps longer, and she just never told usthat she was ill. My dad died suddenly, from heart, in 1999. I often wonder which loss was harder. I knew mom would eventually die, but dad was a shocker. I miss them both. I have no regrets. I did everything I could to be a good daughter. They were such wonderful people and I loved them so.
Time makes things easier, but I am not sure we ever totallly heal. I went to see a psychologist who specializes in grief. I went to see him after I lost my first husband tragically to an accident at work. He advised me to tell my story and tell it again and again. He said one day I would no longer need to tell it quite so often, and then I would start to heal. It is in the remembering that we learn to move on and recognize that they are in peace now. I have often struggled with the "what ifs", but I know these are unanswerable questions.

Dear God,
Please lift forget me not, a daughter who dearly misses her parents into your loving care. We know that her parents are in a far better place, but it does not make it any easier on those of us that are left behind. Every little thing will remind us of them. Help forget me not to find better days ahead. Days that are filled with joyous memories and less sadness. Wrap your arms around her and give her your tender loving care and understanding. Grant her parents eternal life with you our dear Lord. Help Forget me not to find her place in the world again. It is so easy to get lost, do not let her get lost. Please guide this wonderful daughter. Help her to grieve her loss and to also find an increasing amount of joy in each day. Remind her that she will never forget them. They will always be silent angels walking on her side.
I ask this in Jesus' name
Lord hear our prayer,
Amen.
Judy/Effie