Is some improvement possable?

Hello everyone, I wonder if you can help me figure somthing out.

My sister is now 55 and she was diagnosed when she was 50 with what the Doctors called "early dementia" I have asked if it is Alzeimers that she has ,and the Doctor said that it was a "Alzeimers type" of Dementia. I still feel a bit confused about that to be honest,but anyway,to the main reason for my post.

My sister lives with her Husband and Daughter. Six months ago my sister didnt seem to be able to think enough for herself to get up and get her self so much as a drink of water. Now suddenly over the last few weeks she has started making a cup of tea in the mornings for her self and her Daughter. She has also started to do some washing up and she had stopped doing that as well at one time. Can this possably mean that my sisters problems could be due to somthing other than Alzeimers?

I personaly believe that a lot of my sisters problems have been made worse by her husband. He drinks alot. I am sorry to say but he is horrid. My sister blocked the toilet because she used kitchen paper instead of toilet tissue and instead of reasuring her and telling her not to worry instead he shouted at her and made her feel stupid. This has led to my sister now putting dirty toilet tissue in the bin(wherever she is)instead of her flushing it down the toilet. interesting I think that according to my sisters daughter,Husband is still in bed and not watching over her while she makes the morning cup of tea. My self and my other 2 sisters spend what time we can with her and make sure that she gets good meals and take her for days out etc,but there is only so much we can do when we have our own lives and problems to deal with.

I have spoken with sociel workers about my sisters husband but they just say "well we cant kick him out of his own house" I just feel that without her husband my sister could be 50% better than she is. Do you think it is possable that her problems are more due to being trodden into the ground for so many years by her husband rather than it being Alzheimers that she has?

Sorry to go on, but any thoughts on this would be apreciated.

Sue

 

Thank Lyn.

Yes my niece does still live at home with her Mom,although she is in her mid twenties and Engaged so she isn't going to be there too much longer. She is the one that makes sure my sister has her tablets at night and takes her shopping etc on the days that the rest of us can't help out.

Too be honest my sisters husband will only go as far as the local shop to get his paper and booze so if the rest of us don't make sure that Stella(my sister)gets to her Doctors apointments etc,well I just don't know what would happen. But her Husband is the one that is claiming the care alowence. It is wrong,it should be going to my niece not him. He always seems to put on a show whenever a social worker goes around to see them and I am sure that they don't believe that he is as bad as we have told them he is.

I will do what you suggested Lyn and ask if Stella can have more tests. I will let you know what happens.

Thanks again

Sue

Sue ....it is a fact as far as I know that the hits on the head will or may contribute to this..........I am so sorry she or any woman or man for that matter has to live like this it really is so sad isnt it ...........glad you will look into it for her ......and in my opinion if he hits one whats one more right ....I pray thats not the case ....yes please keep me posted and you take care as wel ....God Bless ......Lyn

Hello SnowyLynne

Yes they do know because it is always myself and my neice that take her for Doctors apointments and we have also had apointments with sociel workers at their office and my sisters husband never comes. He always says he isnt well. He did go for one apointment though to do with sorting out care alowence(surprise surprise) Also my neice has been up to the office of the sociel workers in tears more than once on her own because the situation at home was becoming too hard for her to cope with.

I personaly think that because the social workers know that there are some family that are trying their best,that to a certain extent they have the attitude of "oh the family will make sure she doesn't die" I am sorry I do know that these people do a lot of good but I am finding the whole situation very frustrating.

I feel awful not knowing the answer to your question SnowyLynne,but Stella saw a Lady that I believe to be a Consultant and she was the one that sent Stella for the brain scan etc.and then I presumed that the results were then sent back to the consultant. I have to say that I do not know if a Neurologist Diagnosed Stella or not. I will definately question the Doctor about this at our next visit and I will also find out for sure what the "consultant" actuely specialises in. I know all about which Doctor to see etc and what questions to ask when there is anything to do with the digestive system because of my own health problems in the past,but when it comes to a Dementia type illness I am at a loss. I am learning though thanks to you and this board.

I am going away for a week now because my family have organised a surprise holiday for me(one of my other sisters will make sure that Stella is ok while I am away) I will get back to you and let you know what happens at the next Doctors apointment.

Thankyou both and take care

Sue