I know that with Mom just passing it has affected Dad in ways I dont even understand yet I feel so sad that he is and seems so lost.......I have to do everything ( I do not mind) he is not totally gone yet he is just a mere shell of self.......
I went over this am as we were planning on him moving in here with us well he flew into a rage and said he could look after self and he will be fine ..
I have a hard time being in the house still, the memories are beautiful but painful....
I went into the den and there are pics of Mom all over it is a h*** of a mess in there but he will not let me do any cleaning out in that room ,he says it is his room and to leave it be lol........I understand but I am so hurting for him they were together over 40 + yrs and then she was gone
The doc said this is Dads way of grieving and to not push him right now and I am trying my darndest not too but he has to sell the house it is a 5 bd house and with the finances he will not be able to make the bills in the next couple of months if he continues to stay there
I go over at least 6 to 8 times a day to talk and make sure stove is off and he is okay ..........I always find him in that Den and in housecoat unshaven and looking like he is giving up.......I asked him if I come over later If I can give him a nice hair trim and shave and he agreed but not w/o a bit of a hassle lol......so hopefully I will be able to get him to bathe and I will do hair and shave him.........He is coming to the market with me tomorrow so that will be my reasoning card to draw ya know ........
Well thanks for letting me vent lol......I am doing okay and up a bit but I just dont want him to go as well .........Take care all and God Bless..Lyn