I NEED HELP WITH MY GRANDMA!!

stepmama

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Posted 6/4/2007 3:16 PM (GMT 0)

I am new to this site. My grandma started having problems a little over a year ago. She started hearing things, like people's voices coming out of the wall. We could not convince her that it was in her head. She felt threatened and heard horrible things. She was even terrified of my grampa. Now she has decided that he is not out to get her, but she is stilll hearing other people in the wall. She keeps calling the police and calling the people she thinks she is hearing and asking them to leave. She has become more disoriented in the past year. Doctors we have talked to say it is dimentia, but since it is so real to her, she does not think she has a problem and will not go to the doctor for it. It is getting worse every week now. I work for my dad in the office out of his house. He lives next door to my grandma so I check on her a lot during the day. Sometimes there is nothing I can do. She gets so frustrated and starts to call people. We are afraid she is going to do something crazy and get committed and we do not want that to happen. We really need to think of a way to convince her she has a problem. She does not really trust any of us any more. We are thinking of having an intervention, and calling her sisters to come visit so that we can all sit down with her at once and tell her we are worried and that we all think she needs to see a doctor. Any suggestions on how to make that intervention successful or suggestions on other ways to get through to her would be appreciated. Thanks.

Howlyncat

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Posted 6/4/2007 5:30 PM (GMT 0)

Hi and Welcome
I am the caregiver for my dad and looked after my mom tiol she passed away last yr in March....
This AD demetia all the names it can be rederred as is a Horrid disease hun and you need to have support
Have you thought about caling some of the places I have listed or have you read some of the older posts that have info........... 'Also there is a fantastic book called ""The 36 Hour Day " I have re read this book many times and in Our HW resources there is alot of other books as well to look at and other input to help out
It is hard to deal with this I know and what is happening to your G is REAL to her it is happening to HER she cannot help this BUT medication CAN most often
There are many good meds out there for this problem and for the AD itself ......
I see she doesnt want to go to the doctor ? I would think an intervention may calm you and your other family members but you need also to be careful that she doesnt turn on all of you's and shut you out .that is a distinct possibilty I am sad to say ....
You have to keep in mind as well she is believing all are out to get her ......I am so dang sorry that you are dealing with this and your family as well
I would not say no dont do an intravention but if you do keep reassuring her that it is out of love for her and I can tel you love her deeply and are scared for her.......
PLEASE emial me at your convenience and I can help you out a little more and I am sure others will have some input
DO read past post and threads
The one that is "Padraig my wife .my story" is a good one and he has written a book about his journey with his wife
Alos I have one up for "Caretakers " and emotions and feelings we tend to go thru
PLease DO stay with us and get the support you need
God Bless.....
Gentle ((((( )))))) to you your family and your Grandma
LYN

stkitt

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Posted 6/4/2007 5:39 PM (GMT 0)

Hell, Welcome to Healing Well.
I am Kitt. I am so sorry your dealing with this difficult problem with your Grandmother. I am wondering if a big intervention would not scare your Grandmother more then if a couple of her closet children sat and talked with her.
I would guess the goal is to get her into the physicians office to rule out any other disorder that may be going on.
There are members on here that are experts and will have a lot of good information for you.
Your Grandmother is lucky to have such a caring and loving granddaughter.

Howlyncat

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Posted 6/4/2007 6:04 PM (GMT 0)

Thanks Lil sis
I have responded to her and hoping email will come or that post will come and she will stay with us

stepmama

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Joined : Jun 2007

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Posted 6/5/2007 1:34 PM (GMT 0)

Thanks so much for replying. I will definately check into some of the threads you listed as soon as I have a chance!!!

Howlyncat

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Posted 6/5/2007 11:10 PM (GMT 0)

Good for you and I do hope you stick with us
EMAIL me if you need to talk okay
Am here for all
I bumped a few up for you
LYN

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