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Posted 2/1/2008 5:03 PM (GMT 0)
Hey All, like that title.........caught your eye did it?

My hubby had his yearly physicial and the physician called him yesterday to tell him one of his labs is pointing toward a prostate problem so off he goes to the Urologist on the 13th.  He is most likely facing surgery and cancer is a strong possibility.
He has Crohn's Disease already and this has really hit him hard. My anxiety is running high but I rally when the hard times roll and I have to be what I am, a wife who loves her husband, and a caregiver at heart.


The toughest thing for me is the waiting and how to offer him support.  He shuts down when he is in trouble with his health.  I am sure he is depressed but he just won't talk.  So I need your prayers and your support to be strong enough and wise enough to get him through this.

Thank you all for caring.
Love

Kitt

Posted 2/1/2008 10:24 PM (GMT 0)

Thanks Baby T.  I am trying not to freak...........but it is hard.  I know it will be fine.  Wish I could go to a tropical island for a week.  devil

Hugs
Kitt

Posted 2/1/2008 11:41 PM (GMT 0)
where there for you skitt, i hope your husband test all come out good, we'll be praying for him . i know how it feel to worry about someone you love, i had to wait two weeks to see if my little girl was o.k. it was hard on me, take it easy on you, be strong when i know its hard times, it will all be o.k.


machelle
Posted 2/2/2008 12:42 AM (GMT 0)
Kitt,

I'm so sorry to hear about your husband.  I will definitely pray for both his health and well being, as well as yours.  Please know that all of us here are standing behind you ready to support you in whatever you need! 

Posted 2/2/2008 3:54 AM (GMT 0)

machalle and Junebug,
Thank you so much, you know I count on you all. You have always rallied and the prayers have always helped.  Love ya
Kitt

Posted 2/2/2008 4:53 PM (GMT 0)

Thanks Baby T.
He is not good about talking about his fears and he does not want anyone to know.  The nurse in me is of course searching the internet but the info is never conclusive and so we wait until the 13th. 
I wish I could go to sleep and wake up on the 13th just to make time go by faster.............

Thank you  for being here.  I do so appreciate it.  My anxiety is up, down and all over the scale.

The anticipatory anxiety is back as it is so hard to not think of the what ifs?

With your support I will be OK
Hugs to you
Kitt

Posted 2/3/2008 2:17 AM (GMT 0)
Kitt I am so sorry about your hubby.My hubby has prostate problems too his is enlarged.So he has to keep watch out because an enlarged prostate can sometimes lead to cancer i hear.I will be praying for you hon.I guess now its time for us to give you the warm and gentle advice you give us.You seem like such a WARM PERSON I wish you and your husband the best.I know everything will be just fine you just wait and see! What you were saying about your husband not being good at opening up about issues like that,I think all men are like that. I think they just dont like to show fear or get emotional,alot of men think thats being soft,but like i tell my husband we are all human and being fearful is a part of life,it does not make you soft when you are fearful.It makes you human.Remind him of that!
Posted 2/3/2008 2:20 AM (GMT 0)
Hi Kitt

Sorry about your hubbys bad test results. I will be praying that all goes well. Be strong and we are here for you as you know.

Take care
Dor
Posted 2/3/2008 3:49 PM (GMT 0)
Hi kitt i was just checking to see how you and your hubby was coming along!!! I hope all is well.I will keep you guys in my thoughts and prayers! Remember what dont kill you can only make you stronger!!! Love ya!!!
Posted 2/3/2008 4:18 PM (GMT 0)

Good Morning my friends,

Well only 10 more days to wait.  You are right, I think it will turn out to be something simple but the waiting is hard.  I want to leave and come back in ten days but I would not leave him alone....... eyes

He does not want to talk about it and has taken the let's see what it is first approach yet I know inside he is worried.   I am a " lets have a fall back plan"  but seeing as this is his body, I respect his wishes. 

Men do not like sickness and weakness in themselves, I so understand that.  He already has the Crohn's so adding anything will be nasty for him. 

I am trying to stay busy and also quit eating..........I eat when I am nervous, happy sad.....oops, I guess I use food for comfort.  Been fighting that old battle all my life.  So off to the store to buy some fruit.

You guys are simply quite wonderful and coming here and seeing the posts warms my heart.  I feel like I can post my feelings and yet know it is ok.
Hugs
Kitt

Posted 2/3/2008 10:34 PM (GMT 0)
10 days ahhhhh thats nothing! (lol) Just kidding kittt,thought i'd add a little humor as i've heard laughing adds years to your life.Anyway 10 days seem like alot when your'e waiting on news that may have a very big impact on you and your family's life.But like BabyT said it will be here and gone before you know it so rest my little angel everything will be ok !!! we are here for you honey!!!!
Posted 2/4/2008 2:23 AM (GMT 0)

Kitt, endless aplogies for getting here so slowly..

BLESS YOU AND YOUR BELOVED

You know how much we all love and support you and the same goes for your soulmate...I will have you both in my thoughts from today on..you are family and will be given all the help and love you surely deserve, keep us up to date sweetie

xxxxxxxxxxmegs

Posted 2/4/2008 2:06 PM (GMT 0)
Lil sis
YOU of all know I shut down too or did for the most part when it comes to my health issues .......
I am going to keep all my digits crossed for you and pray he will open up
The more I was pushed the less I talked ..........
no MATTER what sis he does KNOW you love and support him 110%

AND so do I and all the "family" here

Stay strong and lean on me k ........Love ya .....BIG SIS
Posted 2/4/2008 4:48 PM (GMT 0)

Lordy, I am a jelly fish on the inside and yet I must continue to pretend that all is fine and we are not waiting to hear news that can change our lives.

I need to go back and read all my own advice.  I thank you all for your support, it means the world to me.

Lyn, I know you shut down...........I can always tell when something is happening and I am giving him the respect he deserves to do this his way.  I am leaning on you for sure.  You have been down this road often and you have dealt with it better then I am right now.  It is the not knowing that is so hard. 

Hey all jokes welcome, you know I have a sense of humor so I will never take a joke or teasing the wrong way.

Hugs to all
Kitt

Posted 2/4/2008 7:11 PM (GMT 0)
Hay kitt first of all i have to say if that monkey joke didn't almost make you wet your pants you are too worried!(lol) Because it darn sure almost made me wet mines! I've not been feeling too well myself but that's the most i've laughed all week.I sure hope you got a good laugh out of that kitt.You can use one! Tell your husband the joke too if you havent already'i"m sure he can appreciate a good laugh too! I LOVE YOU AND YOU ARE STILL IN MY THOUGHTS AND PRAYERS HONEY.TAKE CARE!!!
Posted 2/4/2008 7:14 PM (GMT 0)
Baby T that was sooooo funny my ribs are hurting!!!! You are a nut or shall i say a grape(lol) I think that may have cheered kitt up, it sure cheered me up i love to laugh!!! c-ya later darling!!!
Posted 2/5/2008 3:48 AM (GMT 0)

Hey baby T, that was a hoot..........it did make me laugh.  You guys are so nice.  Hugs.
I have read up on the internet and I am beginning to think I am just plain nutso as he probably has a simple infection and I am in a high state of anxiety.  How I wish I had friends close to me.  I don't know how to focus my attention on anything productive so I sit here and answer posts.

I am  my own worse enemy and my problems seem so small compared to what others are writing.  My hubbies Crohn's disease is so well controlled I hate to even mention it on the Crohn's forum but he had such bad times through his 3 surgeries that I feel he paid a lot of dues then.  I am glad he is under control.

Lyn, I know you are going through so much with your Dad and family and yet you are so strong and you don't complain, so I will take a page from your book and just quit with the worrying.  It serves no purpose.

I will look for the sunshine and get my butt off the puter and start being useful.

Love each of you,  your just the best and I am so glad you are here.
Kitt

Posted 2/5/2008 3:43 PM (GMT 0)

Good Morning Baby T, Panike, Lyn, Meg, Dor  and All..............

8 Days to go and we will find out that all is well.  I am convinced now that it will be ok and have stopped spending hours rereading the subject on the internet.

I am practicing my own staying in the moment philosophy to avoid the anticipatory anxiety and worrying about how I will cope.  I am strong but I can cry so I feel like I will make it through.

Everyday I come here and I feel the support of each of you and that boosts my spirits as you are each so encouraging. 

BabyT, we had a joke forum but due to the 13 years olds in the site and the jokes becoming a bit racey we had to suspend the joke thread.

You are certainly welcome to post a joke here.  I love a good laugh.

Bumper sticker on a car:

A woman needs a man like a fish needs a bicycle.   devil

Do you think that woman needs our help...........lol
Hugs to you
Kitt

Posted 2/5/2008 4:25 PM (GMT 0)
Baby...I did just about wet me drwers .THAT sure was a good one ..bring em on our KITT needs them and frankly so do I ..BUT it is lil sis I am worried about
Support is what she needs and she knows already she is truly loved here by all .........Love ya too baby will yak on Yahooo tomorrow k have to do dad's tx son and then get ready for another doc visit ..........

Lil Sis..YOU Lean on me all you HAVE to plz ...know I AM here for you as you have always been here for this old babe k ........Love that bumper sticker too
Cannot wait til I can give ya a big huggles in person......
Big sis out with lotsa love and concern.......
Posted 2/5/2008 5:00 PM (GMT 0)

Thanks Big Sis and I will look for a Canadian Bumper Sticker........... devil   You take care of Dad and give him a gentle hug from me.  One for you and Cait and Howie too.

Love ya

Lil Sis

Posted 2/5/2008 5:07 PM (GMT 0)
Thanks so much my lil sis
I SO love and need you in my life........
Gentle huggs your way too lil sis k

Big sis out for now have to look after daddy .......
Love ya ....YOUR big sis always ansd forever...........
Posted 2/5/2008 6:10 PM (GMT 0)
Kitt, hi its me Nanners (Gail) from the Crohns site. I didn't know you were going thru such a stressful time with your husbands test results. You are always there for all of us, I hope that we can be there at least half as much as you are for us. I wanted to email you, but it looks like you have enough on your plate, so I will talk more later. (BIG HUGS) to you:)
Posted 2/6/2008 1:22 AM (GMT 0)

Nanners,
I am doing fine, really.  I have all these wonderful members of HW suppoting me.  I have plenty of time for you so please email me.
I would feel bad if you did not as I am here and I am available......so send your mail on it's way.

Hugs at you

Kitt

Posted 2/10/2008 3:21 AM (GMT 0)
Kitt,

You and your Hubby are in my thoughts and prayers.

It''s so easy to think the worse, but please hang in there til you know for sure what is going on.

There are times when I'm not feeling good and I get quiet but I know my Husband is there for me.

Believe me, your Hubby knows how much you love him and knows in his heart that you are there for him!

Sending Big Hugs to You,

Mary

 

Posted 2/10/2008 4:28 PM (GMT 0)

Thanks Mary, I am giving him his space.............and trying to stay in the moment. Coming here and posting helps me and everyone here is so supportive.

Love ya
Kitt

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