Need advice...

Hi-all-
haven't posted in a loooooong time, but I think of all of you often, as you have helped me through some tough times.
As you may remember, my daughter (now 20) came out as being a *** about a year ago. I am still struggling with this somewhat, as her girlfriend, whom she claims to be in love with, lives directly across the street. (They both go to college, but are home for breaks and for the entire summer). I think part of my lack of acceptance has come from my opinion of her girlfriend- I feel she is very domineering and is pulling all of my daughter's strings. I just got an e-mail from my daughter, written in a loving way, but stating that she is concerned about how things are going to be between us this summer because I haven't fully accepted everything. She wants me to accept her girlfriend so badly, and I am not at that point. Needless to say, my anxiety is back in full force- need advice, and perhaps a suggestion for a chat room/forum of mothers in similar situations.

Thank you all so much!!

Kitt-

Thank you soooo much!! I am going to post that poem on my refrigerator!!

Dear a.l.,

What a struggle you're facing. I think Kitt has given you the best advice I can think of: to try staying in the moment, not thinking ahead to "what ifs." And of course remember that even though you're not able to approve of your daughter's choices yet, she is still the same person that you've always loved and cared for. That love will be something constant in her life that she will appreciate and need very much in facing the issues that come with her lifestyle. Someday she will understand and value the challenges you're facing in accepting her decisions, but I suspect that right now, she's still grappling with many challenges about it herself.

Hang in there, be gentle with yourself, and accept that you are doing the best you can.

Prayers and hugs,
percycat