Complainin again... hi all.

Happy Halloween late... sorry I didn't come for it... hum on my side is a bit confused...

My former stepfather who is on parole who has been living here in my house on the downstairs for 9 months, finally had a little trouble with parole and now the house is always like on lockdown, meaning the door upstairs that I go into my once free house is now always locked and I always have to use a key to merely get upstairs into my BATHROOM which was once his *including my grandfathers* but now the change was made... and now with parole rules and my grandfather's age it was bound to occur that the bathroom right next to my room on the bottom floor would be eventually... theirs.

So therefore, I had no choice, it was mandatory to give it up... but I'm having great difficulty giving it up in the mind... I'm so used to my own realm, my own bathroom, I've had enough bad things happen in the past few months, such as my Neopets account being lost, the Doctor saying those horrible things that put fear inside me, my everyday battle against myself, and so on... now everytime I want to merely use the bathroom I gotta run upstairs with a key, while it was always just right there at my doorstep... I was trying to keep my bathroom as long as I could, but now I've lost it... my mother has used quotes such as "Well when everyones dead it'll be the way you want it"... such a horrible thing to say, it's like a confusing conflict, I would never want everyone to be dead but I did not expect these rules to happen so powerfully and it seems the bathroom upstairs which was cleaned from their filth ... is in REVERSE compared to my old one, and the tub/shower is like... smaller on the right side so the shower curtain is ALWAYS on my arm...

I'm ocd, autistic, etc we all know that... I just have troubles adjusting to minor change, imagine major change... well I don't know what else to say except the famous thing... if I can't handle minor change like that, what the heck am I gonna do when it comes to major change. I think I'm in serious trouble.

-Paul

Good Morning Paul,

May I ask why your former stepfather is staying in your home?  Is it your grandparent's home?  What is the relationship?

I know your thinking is bothering you and you are trying hard to accept the change but it feels unfair to you as you are the one that has to give up something due to the actions of your former stepfather.

Accepting change is hard. Try to take it one step at a time, first accept that you do not have control over this change but don't let it throw all the good you have been doing into the dump.

Make the upstairs bathroom yours, decorate it a bit with your own personal style. Remember to stay in the moment.  You cannot go back to yesterday and tommorow is not here yet so live in the moment.

Gentle Hugs

Kitt

Hi Paulos, nice to see you back. Sorry you have people changing things on you.

Best wishes,
Buddha

Hi, my only advice is to personalise the bathroom to your tastes- i dont know, i dont cope well with change, and i teach autistic kids who absolutely loathe change, it upsets and angers them. thinking of you at this time, hope it can be resolved.

Maz XX