Hi Im New! Also got question

Hi everyone , my name is mike.

I have been dianosed with Axiety Disorder, Panic Disorder/ and social phobia just recently after struggling with what i had since Iraq , the VA is helping me out now.

They have prescribed me with sertraline and clonazepam which really actually helps. also seeing a therapist as well which also helps. She suggested i talk with other folks in a forum or support group and since i cant seem to fnd any around in my area. here i am :D

I do have a question and i know how im going to fix it but i will have to deal with this person for at least another month before i move into my new  place so..here goes.

This person seems to always try to lower my self esteem any chance he gets when im up no matter. and when i get mad about it and we argue he always tells me im crazy and i need ot take my meds..please this is hurtful and everytime i try to sit down with him and explain to him my illness he says ok i understand but still tells me and others that im crazy. one other roommate said to me that when i entered the room and left he told this girl that was there with the physco symbol, twirling of the finger around the head thing. but after i talked to her she said that i was cool and i dont know what "the guy" as a problem with.  any time i try to work on my social phobia hes there trying to bring me down infront of them. I dont want to get pissy cuz then that causes me to most of the time get into a panic attack of course and there he goes saying looking hes going crazy. he says hes my friend but why would friends keep tormenting me and insulting me. So my help i need is how can i cope living with this guy till i can move into my new place , im trying to heal , but his comments and way he treats me makes me fill like im making no progress. I also added a poll weather if this guy is a jerk or its just in my head heh. oh and everytime i try to talk to him about the way he does , hes gets mad and that im just paranoid and crazy and to take my meds which i take everyday and i feel fine actually great. i only need half a tablet of the clonazepam every 12 hours and the zoloft once per day.

I need advice on how to handle the situation. Anytime i try to walk away from him so no drama will build he goes to my room and keeps going.

Geez, what a dilemma! For the first time in my life I'm speechless. This roommate of yours is a jerk! There's no way you can move out earlier than planned? This guy is bad news for your health. You're doing all the right things and then you have to deal with him. I was going to suggest staying out of his way as much as possible. See if that works. If you're trying to work on the social phobia, you could try malls, Starbuck's, church, etc. Anything that doesn't involve him. Stay with us! Many of the people who post here are very helpful and kind. Welcome and let us know how you're doing! Carol

Hi Mike

Glad you have found this forum as Lyn said we are a tight knit family here and we understand what you are going through with your anxiety. Sounds to me like your room mate in insecure in himself and he is taking it out on you to make him self feel better which is not on, you say that the meds are helping and that you feel fine actually great and that is a massive positive and your other friends sound supportive. Some people find it hard to understand our illness and call us crazy or mental but usually these people dont have a clue and if they actually took the time to listen they may understand what we go through on a daily basis.

I would say to try and ignore him and focus on getting better and that you only have a short time before you can move out and then i would not have any thing more to do with him as someone like that can really get you down, stick in there Mike and know that we are here to listen and support you if needed so keep posting to tell us how things are going if he keeps coming to your room lock your door and he will soon get the message.

Take Care

Ben

Hi Zerican,

Welcome to HW. I couldn't agree more. This guy is a bully and a jerk. He is putting his own insecurities onto you. Don't put up with it at all. I think walking away is a smart way to deal with the situation if you don't want to create a drama and feed into his ridiculous behaviour. If it makes you feel better write him a letter and when you leave hand it to him with a big grin on your face.

Goodbye, so long! It's hard to live in a space with an agressive person, but I would just bide my time and leave. He doesn't deserve your time or your worry. Don't dignify him with that..just do your own thing and walk away when he is being a jerk. That's not being weak, it's being the bigger person.

Let us know how you go, again, welcome.

Meg

I posted information on my Disorder from the VA on the fridge so people will know and what to expect if i have a attack, and just a few minutes ago he comes with the papers and says " Um why did you post this on the fridge?" and i said " So everyone in the household knows my condition and what to expect and will know how to help me calm down or what to do." and he stares at me and says " Well your not the only one who has problems you know , we all have problems and we all can adapt here together." I said. " well the thing is im trying to work on this myself but i also need other people in the household to be supportive , number one thing is ot not try to bring my self esteem down." and he says " Well no one is doing it on purpose." and I said. " im sorry but saying im crazy and need to take my meds isnt very productive to me progressing of my illness, Then telling vistors im crazy behind my back isnt very helpful either when i have to hear about them. and then said I also am taking my advice of my theripist and getting out of the sitution." "So your moving?" and i said yes and he says " great now i have to worry about my mortatage even more." and i said " Im sorry but living with you is unhealthy for me." and he left. I do not think he is very pleased with me right now but amazingly I talk to him really calm no matter how much he yelled. I know that was a progressive step im so happy for my self. im going to get a bowl of smart start cinnom rasin bran, man that stuff is good for a treat.
Regards and best wishes
Mike.

:D thanks kit I love the AWARE i will definitley do that.





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