Percycat, you new Mod you................yeeeeeehaaaaa. Some things are good and right in the world.
I talked to my son today and he is hanging on to documentation and I told him about keepin a journal of the facts, times, dates etc. He said his wife start going down hill about 5 years ago when she decided to be a nurse. She is now at a stage where if she is not out with her friends she is just sitting studying. She flunked out of Nursing School last year and now she wants to move 2 hours away from home to get a degree in Pharmacy.........
He told me she doesn't cook, take care of the kids, leaves them home alone and doesn't do any housework or wash, he is doing all that with the help of the kids. He has tried to talk to her to explain she just is not able to go to school and take out all these student loans but she has no concept of paying back the bills. She gets mad and tells him he doesn't support her.
The 14 year old has the Aspergers and takes a very patient, strong parent to help her. The 12 and 8 year old are way to young to be burden with housework that their Mother won't do.
So I sit here in MN and pray and have told him to just call, I will come out if he needs me.
When it comes to my children even if they are adults I am still the Mama Bear. 
Each of you has supported me in the last years that started with my husband discovering he had cancer to all the rest.
Now I am going to be here to support you to the max. We will survive.
Gentle Hugs
Kitt